Passive-Aggressive Personality Disorder

There are different types of personality disorders, one of them is the passive-aggressive disorder (also called oppositional personality disorder).

It is characterized because these people resist external requirements, that is, the demands of others, with expressions such as obstructionism, procrastination, stubbornness or forgetfulness, combined with negative and defeatist attitudes.

This type of behavior persists even when it is possible to show a different and more effective behavior. People with this type of personality disorder are manipulative and dependent on others, which is why they appear pessimistic and resentful.

Causes of Passive-Aggressive Personality Disorder

The exact causes of this personality disorder are not known with certainty.. Although experts affirm that the origin is found in both biological and environmental factors.

Researchers think that people who show passive-aggressive behaviors already tend to express them in the childhood. The parental style of your parents,

family dynamics and other childhood influences may contribute to the development of this personality disorder. Abuse during this vital stage or severe punishments, abuse of psychoactive substances in the adolescence or low self-esteem can also encourage the development of behaviors passive-aggressive.

It is important to mention that other psychological health conditions may seem like passive-aggressive behaviors, so it is necessary to take it into account when making a correct diagnosis of this disorder of the personality. For example:

• Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD)
• Stress
• Anxiety disorders
• Depression
• Behavioral disorders
• Oppositional defiant disorder
• Bipolar disorder
• Schizotypal personality disorder
• Schizophrenia
• Alcohol abuse
• Cocaine addiction

Symptoms of Passive-Aggressive Personality Disorder

People with this disorder often show a disconnect between what they say and what they do. Their behavior provokes the anger of both those close to them and strangers.

Symptoms of this disorder include:

• Criticize or protest frequently about others
• Being unpleasant or irritable
• Being forgetful and disrespectful to others
• Performing tasks insufficiently
• Act hostile or cynical
• Act stubborn
• Blaming others even if it is their fault
• Complain about us being appreciated
• Show resentment and grumpiness
• Fear authority
• Reject the suggestions of others

Possible treatments

If you suffer from this disorder, you should be treated as soon as possible as it directly affects your interpersonal relationships. Fortunately, it is possible to find help from psychological health professionals. If you think you may be suffering from this disorder, it is necessary that you tell your family and your doctor about it. bedside, so that later you can go to a psychology professional specialized in this type of disorders.

The psychotherapist It can help you identify the passive-aggressive behaviors that you carry out, and thus teach you to achieve a more adaptive behavior and that causes you less suffering. The psychologists can help you manage your anger, resentment wave low self-esteem that may be contributing to this type of personality disorder.

What to do if I suffer from this disorder? Guidelines and Tips

In addition, they can teach you effective coping strategies, such as that you can see the situation objectively and you can solve problems in the healthiest way possible. Assertiveness training can also help you manage passive-aggressive behavior, so that you can express your thoughts and concerns effectively, which reduces negative behavior caused by anger and frustration.

But in addition to going for psychological help, you can also do other things on your own. They are as follows:

• Identify possible reasons why you behave this way
• Think before act
• Calm yourself before reacting to situations that affect you
• Be optimistic
• Be honest with others and express your feelings in a healthy way
• Be aware of your behavior

How to know if I suffer from Passive-Aggressive Personality Disorder: 12 keys to detect it

But how do you know if you suffer from Passive-Aggressive Personality Disorder? In addition to the fact that people generally do not want to approach you, there are different signs that can help you detect it.

1. You show yourself sullen

You do not speak the truth openly, with kindness and honesty when asked for your opinion or when they ask you to do something for someone. In addition, you tend to compromise with other people when you want to say no, which causes confusion and conflict with other individuals.

2. Double sided

You appear to be sweet, obedient and pleasant, but deep down you are resentful, angry and you feel great envy. You live with these two extremes, and this causes the people around you to be confused and angry.

3. Emotional dependence

You are afraid of being alone and dependent. It is difficult for you to have a direct communication, and, when faced with a conflict in your relationship, you usually express: "I hate you" "Don't leave me. This shell that you put on is nothing more than insecurity and fear of rejection. With this attitude you can distance the people who care about you and those who matter, because it often seems that you do not want support. Instead of being open, you close in band and become impenetrable.

4. You hold others responsible

You frequently complain that others treat you unfairly. Instead of taking responsibility for what you do wrong, assume it and try to change, you prefer to play the victim. You often say that others are too hard on you or ask too much of you.

5. Procrastination

Procrastin on a regular basis, especially when you have to do things for others. You always have an excuse why you haven't been able to get things done. You can even blame others when you are the culprit. So you destroy relationships and lose friendships.

6. You communicate through hints

You don't give direct answers. This is another way that people you are with can often feel offended. And, instead of giving direct answers, you always send confusing messages about your thoughts, your plans or your intentions.

7. You're in a bad mood

You tend to sulk and pout. You complain that others don't understand you and lack empathy when they expect you to live up to your promises, obligations, or duties. In reality, you are the one who commits and then you do not comply.

8. Lack of deference towards others

You tend to be late and you are forgetful. One of the reasons it is difficult for you to establish relationships with others is because you are inconsiderate. So you do not take seriously being respectful of the pacts you make. That includes being late when you are meeting someone.

9. You lie frequently

You make up stories, excuses and lies. You are the master of direct response avoidance, you always have to have a phrase to distract the attention of others when they ask you for explanations. This leads you to tell a story or manipulate the information. You prefer to have everything under control by creating lies.

10. You hide your insecurities

You constantly protect yourself so that no one knows how afraid you are of being imperfect., dependent or simply human.