Valentine's Day in the times of social networks

A holiday for lovers, in which it is customary to enhance the feelings already expressed towards our partner, or to express those that we have not told the person who attracts us, in which he also takes advantage of the social networks to show everyone your love, affection and meaning to the person to whom it is directed, and where sales certainly register one of the largest increases in the economy of each country. That is Valentine's Day. But not everything is positive.

In 2004 scientists from the University of Arizona found a sad fact about these dates: the high rates of breakups that fall in the week before Valentine's Day, and the following week immediately after the holiday date.

Of course, it cannot be said that Valentine's Day leads to a breakdown in relationships, but... how such a special date becomes a threat and becomes a test of the strength between a relationship loving?

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The double edge of Valentine's Day

We are involved in a world dominated by social networks, in which even a photo of an acquaintance or stranger can become a threat.

In some people, the influence of social networks is felt more on Valentine's Day, since their use leads many couples to make comparisons. This sometimes becomes a good reason to end a relationship on weak foundations. However, I clarify that the networks are not the culprits. Why? Well, the root lies in dissatisfaction, which manifests itself in the expectations we had about our relationships.

When comparing those actions that are perceived as "failures", on the one hand, and what are considered "ideal" couples, on the other, it may seem "intolerable" to continue together. There is a reason to think "my partner is not giving me the treatment I deserve."

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Go beyond one-sidedness in relationships

But why can the comparison in search of the partner be so important to us?

It's not because someone posts something on Facebook or shares a story on Instagram, it's that some people may already own their own unrealistic expectations about themselves, about other people, and what the love relationship between two should be like people. As a result, the world of human relationships becomes a mirror: people try to see themselves through the way others treat them.

Given this, it is important to remember that each couple is happy in their own way and completely different from the rest. Remember that our partner opens a new world for usHe brings his skills, experience, knowledge, love and also his flaws into our lives. It is not limited to being a container in which we pour our expectations and need for recognition that we already carry with us or that should allow us not to feel alone on days like Valentine's Day, which are still social conventions largely created by an entire apparatus of marketing.

As a professional I recommend keeping a compromise in the ability to truly love and be loved, to be grateful for the person we have chosen as our partner, and not only on a special date, since being fully grateful is a way of appreciating what we have. I invite you to make use of gratitude in this intrinsically rewarding process of mutual discovery.

Bibliographic references

• Le, Benjamin;. (January 27, 2015). Business Insider. Obtained from Science Of Relationships: http://www.businessinsider.com/why-valentines-day-ruins-relationships-2015-1