Flirting, girls, self-concept and sex: 8 tricks to convince them

Guys are a bit rough when it comes to flirting. We are in a hurry to reach the goal and we forget that they think and feel differently from us. His self-concept and ours are different; we have to take it into account in order to communicate assertively and to be able to advance in our relationship.

Attracting a girl: 8 (practically) infallible keys

We must learn to read the context and the nonverbal language to try to detect which points we should work on in our communication.

Fortunately, our culture is changing and, although gender roles are becoming more homogeneous, thanks to the women's sexual liberation. It is true that they still receive many social burdens that make them watch over their selfconcept. For example, many people still think that a girl who goes to bed with many boys is just anybody and the man who has many girls is a winner.

Little by little these fallacies will be destroyed but, for the moment we have to understand that girls experience a certain pressure when thinking about how they are perceived by their environment.

How do we guys think?

As we have already pointed out, we boys are impatient And, when we want sex, we blind ourselves and only see the girl and our goal. Our interests make us focus on moving forward without taking into account the environment and her thoughts; we often act in a way not very selective when we crave sex.

How do they think?

Girls take into account more factors when reflecting. They think of him Social context, in the person in front of them and in how they will feel after sleeping with us. For social and biological reasons, which we will tell about another day, the sex, for them, is closely related to their selfconcept.

What is self-concept?

Self-concept is the way a person perceives and feels about himself; is closely linked to self-esteem, which is the way a person values ​​himself.

Knowing what self-concept is and how the social environment influences that of girls, we can optimize communication to make them feel comfortable.

We have to learn to read the social context, in the person in front of them and ensure the comfort and convenience of the interaction.

What do girls want to avoid?

The first point that we must bear in mind is that, although it is evident, girls are not an object not a trophy or anything like them. It would be good for men to overcome certain macho beliefs that we have learned in our social development and we began to value and qualify them for something more than their body or their attractiveness physical.

In the 21st century, girls decide who they sleep with and we do not have to think of strategies or tricks that will make us, in the long run, be discovered as liars. Let's learn to value people so it makes them unique and different from others and let's learn to communicate what makes others special.

What are girls looking for?

As a general rule, girls want feel special (Like us, go) and know that the boy in front of them will know how to act accordingly and will not make them feel bad about themselves or their social environment. They want to feel that the person they are likely to sleep with is also a special person, of high value, and that they deserve someone who deserves them. Each girl is different and in recent times more women are moving away from these cultural patterns that, in a way, are patriarchal. But the Judeo-Christian culture and morality is deeply rooted, and that entails socially demanding certain patterns of sexual behavior from girls.

How to convince a girl? Flirting isn't everything

Next, we will expose eight key points to be able to communicate in a way that benefits the interaction and creates solid bonds of real trust. It should be noted that it does not consist in cheating. It consists of working on yourself to be able to offer the best of yourself, without falling into manipulation.

It is not enough to appear, you have to be. Become a assertive person and high value will not only help you to flirt with girls; All aspects of your life will be positively affected if you follow these eight tips.

It goes without saying that each person is different and I do not claim that these eight points are dogmas or unbreakable norms. They are only tools to create the synergy of positivity, friendship and attraction that can bring you unforgettable and genuine moments.

1. Cultivate yourself

It is essential to start with yourself. Cultivating our hobbies, friendships and professional careers, will be the way that we develop a attractive life and full. Becoming cultured, mature and lived people will make us be perceived as having a high social and individual value. Let's think about what we like to do and what goals we have in life to walk towards them.

2. Convenience and comfort

Learning to communicate to make others feel good will make people feel good around us. The confidence it is one of the most difficult things to generate in a relationship. It is important that we learn to develop social skills that help others to feel comfortable around us; touch warmly, learn to listen and to say things nicely… it will be a good way to start.

3. Be discret

Many boys sin of braggarts; we like to show off our conquests and brag about the girls we've slept with. This makes girls perceive us as indiscreet people and, consequently, they fear sleeping with us. We must learn to be silent and to know when and to whom to tell our intimacies. Having a trusted friend to whom we can tell these things will prevent our love conquests from turning into common knowledge.

4. Read the context

In case it has not been clear, we repeat it again: nobody worth their salt wants to be socially judged as a person not very selective or easy. This means that, depending on what contexts, we must learn to communicate in one way or another. It is not the same to talk in privacy that surrounded by friends and acquaintances at a dinner. Knowing where and with whom we are will give us information on how to behave and what we can say or do and what not. So that no one feels their self-concept attacked and avoid social judgment.

5. Insinuate yourself properly

This point is closely linked to the previous one. The context will give us signs of how and when we have to suggest that we like or want to sleep with them or give them a kiss. Saying things in a subtle way so that our message goes unnoticed for others will be of great help so that she does not feel pressured and feels comfortable.

6. Read between the lines

That we have to learn to communicate with discretion is because they, in part, do it too. Understand why do they say what they say And detecting the reason why they say it is essential so that we know how to communicate with them and master flirting techniques. Girls rarely communicate directly; we have to learn to translate their indirect messages and thus we will save ourselves from being "breaded".

7. Alone, much better

Reading the context and communicating adequately and subtly are tools to communicate more intimately and directly. Away from social pressure, we will feel more comfortable and will be able to express ourselves more freely with ourselves and with others.

8. Have a why

Sex doesn't have to be a motive in and of itself. Our sexual interest has to be based on more refined attributes than a beautiful body or because we just want to. We can't force anyone to want sex with us. But we can improve our message so that we are not perceived as someone who only wants sex. After all, if a girl doesn't want to sleep with us, she won't, no matter how many strategies we employ. But if we learn to say things and have reasons, at least we will separate ourselves from people who only see them as a sex object.

In summary

Little by little, society is winning and shedding its macho burdens, but in the meantime, know the self-concept of the other personLearning to observe it and to value it for its values ​​will facilitate our communication. Develop the noble art of discretion and learn how and when to communicate why we like the person you attracts us, it will be very useful to ensure her comfort and she will be able to choose more freely, away from the judgment of others.