I know the theory and I can't put it into practice

There are many people who suffer from psychic suffering. It may be for a clear and specific reason, or it may be that the person does not know how to define what that suffering is and that it is not for something specific. And there are no fewer people who try to remedy on their own or by asking for help, but they do not succeed. And so they live trapped in suffering, or going out and stumbling over the same stone over and over again.

In that attempt to live better, Many patients come to the therapy consultation who consider that they know the theory but are unable to put it into practice. What do you think is happening in those cases? Do you think it is a matter of lack of motivation, not having enough willpower, some kind of deficiency ???

Go beyond theory to feel good

Generally, those who consider going to the consultation of a psychoanalyst, in addition to something happening that makes them suffer, has the he suspects that it is something that has to do with him, with his way of thinking and doing things, although he is not aware of it. Precisely the effectiveness of psychoanalysis is based on the gain of freedom that separates from those constructions psychic that we have developed since childhood and that no longer serve us, and are preventing us from enjoying life and displaying other possibilities. It is this invisible entanglement that is the main obstacle between theory and practice.

But in the age in which we live, the objectifiable is highly valued and there is hardly any room for the subjective or intangible, which is not for that reason non-existent.

That is why it is not about putting more effort into accumulating theory or knowledge. It is about making the experience of analysis an experience of being, and that will have the effect that the patient's life flows in a different way.

What to expect from psychoanalytic treatment?

Explaining what psychoanalysis is would be too complex for an article of this nature. To make it more understandable what it is about, I consider it easier to start by talking about what psychoanalysis is not. So I will comment on some aspects that surely will not be found when going to a psychoanalyst.

You do not have to fill out questionnaires, you do not have to pass any tests, you do not receive an evaluation, you do not keep a list of tasks to do, nor do you self-register. They are not didactic or motivational talks either.Nor does the psychoanalyst say what to do. The psychoanalyst does not scold, judge, give advice, make decisions for you, or get upset with you. The psychoanalyst directs the cure but does not direct the consciousness or the actions of the patient.

The development of the sessions is a job for two. The psychoanalyst does his job, and the patient has to do his. The psychoanalyst offers a unique place to the words of the subject, he listens in the best possible way so that there he can find himself, think about himself, listen to himself. It is a space to talk about what he causes to suffer, to know why and for what we do things.

This requires a lot of involvement and commitment, which on the part of the patient has little to do with just complaining or venting. Things said in the presence of the analyst produce a different resonance, and one becomes aware of things that he knew but that went unnoticed.

How long does the treatment last?

As it is not a standard cure, nor is it about selling certainty and guarantees so fashionable today, (of the type: in 8 sessions we guarantee results), as it is rather a very artisan work in the sense of highly personalized and elaborate, the rush plays a skinny favor. The time will have to be what it has to be, and at the unique pace of each patient we will build a path that is more peaceful to travel. It is not a short treatment, nor is it interminable, the end of the analysis will come, if the patient has not abandoned the treatment, when he has elaborated his conflicts and is satisfied.

Of course it is an experience that does not leave indifferent who decides to do it. It brings an understanding of yourself and a way of thinking that will last forever. And not only that, promotes everything that is more on the side of life.

With the only tool of words, what many would call magic is produced, just enough twist to make one kinder and the world less inhospitable. And, the human being, in addition to being made of muscles, bones, organs... is made of words.