Seductive personality: 6 attractive strategies and traits

The seductive personality is of great value in a society in which contacts and social relationships are increasingly important. This is something that is quickly seen if we look at the advantages available to people with the ability to easily please others: a greater public projection, which means greater opportunities for everything kind.

We'll see now what are the basic characteristics of the seductive personality and what are the socialization strategies related to it.

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Seductive personality: its traits and strategies

Keep in mind that a personality trait is not something "fixed" that belongs to an individual.

In any case, it is a property that is expressed through behavior patterns during the day to day. Just as being a sports fan is not something that appears on a license, the seductive personality exists in the way in which certain people are used to relating to others.

With that said, let's move on to see what are the typical characteristics of the seductive personality.

1. Good control of non-verbal language

Seductive people express themselves with much more than words: they use all their resources to communicate with others in the way they want. This includes, of course, non-verbal communication.

But this type of personality is not only characterized by using a varied and nuanced range of forms of non-verbal expression. In addition, these gestures, postures and ways of intoning the voice are simple lessons that do not require much effort and are used spontaneously when interacting with others.

For example, even in an improvised situation, such as meeting someone you know on the street, the man or woman with this type of personality will know how to move their arms and hands in a way that is consistent with what he says, instead of keeping his arms immobile or keeping them all the time in his pockets as if that were a imposition.

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2. Tendency to extraversion

Seductive people tend to be extroverted, which means that enjoy socially complex contexts in which they should participate, and they feel comfortable in that environment to the point where they seek to live those kinds of experiences with a certain frequency.

The reason is that they do not feel anxiety when talking to strangers or relatively strangers, or when speaking in public, since know that they give a good image, and on the other hand these situations are exciting enough to be fun or interesting

At the same time, this translates into a widely used strategy to gain power of seduction before others: publicly display this extraversion. For example, going up to a high place at a party to deliver a short speech that everyone can hear (without anyone asking or the context requiring it). This causes admiration, as it is seen as a desirable trait.

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3. Control of times when presenting

The seductive personality is reflected in a very clear way in one of the most important moments of social interaction: the presentation. During this stage, which usually lasts a few seconds, these types of people know how to express their importance by controlling the times. Instead of introducing yourself and quickly moving on to something else, make this phase more leisurely than usual: they make the presentation have its mini-ceremony. For example, in an informal context they shake hands through a joke that allows this moment to be extended for a few more seconds.

Having to wait longer causes the other person to internalize the message that their interlocutor is important enough to deserve that privilege, even if this is not true.

4. The absence of hesitation

One of the most seductive traits is self-confidence. Therefore, one of the strategies that seducers use the most is not to show doubts, sometimes even at times when it would be reasonable to have them. Somehow, they mask that decision making in such a way that it seems that from the first moment it is clear what to do.

5. Physical proximity

Another characteristic of the seductive personality is that it plays with proxemics, that is, the spaces that people maintain with each other.

To show self-confidence, these people may get closer than normal to othersWithout making this very uncomfortable, but in a way that makes it clear that you have the power of conversation (not in a hostile sense; in fact, it is a "soft" dominance in which the other can feel comfortable not having to decide much what course the conversation should take).

6. The search for consensus

The seductive personality is not based on superiority over the other at any cost, as this would lead to intimidation. In any case, it seeks to be the engine of consensus that can occur in a dialogue or in a social interaction. That is why a conciliatory spirit is shown, trying to emphasize what is in common with the people to whom the seduction is directed, and without highlighting the differences.