The origin of insecurity: how to overcome it

Throughout our lives it is common to feel insecure, especially in new situations (back to school, facing a new job, being afraid of facing challenges from others). which we do not know if we will have all the capacities) and especially in personal relationships, whether social or as a couple (fear, jealousy, lack of assertiveness or to set limits, etc.). What does insecurity lead us to?

Insecurity is an emotion, sensation and also an interpretation of reality that is unpleasant, paralyzes and distresses us. However, the problem is not insecurity itself. In this article I am going to explain to you what that insecurity really is, what is its origin, and above all, how you can overcome it to live a more harmonious life, where you live based on trust, acceptance and unsafety.

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Insecurity as a form of fear

Thinking that insecurity is a problem may really be the problem. Insecurity, as well as any emotion or mood, it is necessary and useful if it is managed in a functional way.

Imagine that you are driving a car in a completely unknown city. It is logical and adaptive to feel more insecure. What is the most common cause of car accidents? Too much security.

Insecurity is an emotion and feeling that warns you that you believe that you do not have enough capacities or courage to face something, as if your well-being or safety did not depend on you. In a sense, insecurity is a form of fear, as it makes you fear the possible consequences. But is it really a fear or functional insecurity?

Insecurity should not be overcome, but you have to learn to understand and manage it. When insecurity dominates your life, that it is the result of not having understood and managed your emotions in a functional way. In this way, insecurity dominates you and governs your life, when you are not really facing situations that are really a problem or dangerous. How to learn to understand and manage it? What are you really afraid of? To what extent are these fears a danger or are they only part of your interpretation of what is happening or are they born from that own insecurity? Everything is based on going to the root of the problem.

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What to do to manage insecurity from its source?

Feeling insecure at certain times in our life is part of our human nature. The important thing is that it does not condition your life beyond a few seconds. Insecurity should help you to know yourself and what steps you can and cannot take, but never paralyze you.

Changing that situation always implies living a process of managing emotions, since it is from there that we manage to deepen those insecurities, understand them, not react to them and apply in your life a series of different actions that lead you to build a life with greater acceptance and enthusiasm.

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In short, insecurity appears in our life frequently but it is not a problem. Life is actually pure insecurity, since we do not know what is going to happen. The solution is to learn to live with the security and confidence that everything that happens, even what makes us feel insecure, you will be able to overcome it and you will be able to learn from it if you live your process, know yourself and you overcome. That is something that will stay with you your whole life, as you will learn mostly about yourself.