5 benefits of a breakup (well managed)

Few life experiences are as painful as heartbreak. Feeling the rejection of our ex-partner leads us to live a grieving process that can last several months. And as I explained in our article "The chemistry of love: a very powerful drug", this experience is comparable to that experienced by a drug addict who pretends put aside your addiction to a psychoactive substance, because the neural circuits that are activated when someone uses drugs also do so when we we fell in love.

At this time, we may experience a neurochemical imbalance that leads to sadness and sadness. obsession, as the levels of some neurochemicals in the brain are altered (for example, serotonin). Our emotional balance is affected, but over time and following the advice you can find in this link, it is possible to overcome it. Although heartbreak is painful, it is an excellent opportunity to learn. As the saying goes “what doesn't kill you, makes you stronger”.

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Benefits of the breakup (well managed)

If you are experiencing heartbreak, you may feel that you will always be like this: discouraged, thinking constantly on that person you love, waiting on the mobile phone in case you receive a call or a message from him that never come... Well, once you have overcome a series of phases, and although you may not believe it now, the breakup also has its benefits. Which are? In the following lines I explain them to you.

1. Makes you stronger and more resilient

Painful situations affect us all, what changes from one individual to another is how we deal with them. They say that people learn curiosity and pain, and painful situations help us discover new psychological tools and adaptive behaviors because they put us to the test, lead us to extreme situations emotionally speaking. Overcoming heartbreak, for example, is growing as individuals.

It can also happen that, during the relationship, you have made mistakes, and learning from mistakes is something that has happened to all of us. When we feel the pain of a loss, we can always learn something positive. In this learning we become stronger and, once this arduous stage is overcome, we become more prepared to face similar situations in the future. Although heartbreak always hurts, this learning can mean less suffering in the future.

Now, it is important to bear in mind that in order to learn from the past, it is necessary to carry out a deep self-reflection and question the meaning of this experienceotherwise learning will not occur.

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2. Allows you to get out of your comfort zone

The negative emotions that appear during this stage can be used in a positive way. For example, anger is excellent to mobilize us if we focus it towards concrete goals that can help us grow instead of towards our ex. Heartbreak hurts, but if we overcome it in a healthy way it can lead us to leave the zone of comfort, to reinvent ourselves and try things that we might not try if we were in the comfort of the partner.

When they leave us, we have two options: sink or move. Moving can lead to positive change, and that is why many experts say that the best way to overcome heartbreak is to fight for our own personal development.

3. Helps you get to know yourself better

Living as a couple makes us depend a lot on our partner many times because we share many moments together. In some cases, people who have been together for a long time, have serious difficulties even knowing themselves. This moment of instability can lead many people to experience an existential crisis, that is, an identity crisis. If the best way to overcome heartbreak is to fight for your own personal development, that requires a high level of self-knowledge.

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4. Improve your relationships in the future

Each relationship we have can be a learning for future relationships, and it can help us choose partners that best match our personality, our tastes and our interests. For example, it is often said that the second love is better than the first.

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5. Tranquility

Some relationships can be traumatic, and although it is difficult to leave them due to emotional dependence, with time you realize that it was the best option. In these cases, the breakup of the couple can help us find greater peace of mind if we are able to regain confidence in ourselves and regain self-esteem. For this, the best alternative is to fight for what makes you happy.

In summary…

Love is one of the best experiences that human beings can live; however, relationships do not always end well. Heartbreak, therefore, can be a very painful experience, but if we know how to take advantage of this difficult situation, we can grow as people and be happier. Learning from mistakes is possible and, in fact, we have all done it at some point in our lives. If the relationship ended, it was surely to find something better.