Co-parenting: a new way to have a child

In just a few years, the internet has revolutionized the way we live. Today we not only buy everything unimaginable through the network, but it it has also become a powerful socialization tool.

Although 10 years ago we could look askance at those who intimated through those rudimentary chats calling them "weirdos", today, in the new generations, the weirdo is the one who has not had an appointment through the multiple online contact pages that exist. Whether you are looking to meet someone for a "here I'll catch you here I'll kill you" or if what you want is to find the man or woman of your life, the internet has a lot to offer you.

Being a father in an innovative way: co-parenting

Moreover, if what you want is to find the future father or the future mother of your children without it being necessary to maintain an affective-sexual relationship between you, now it is also possible. So that you understand me, I'm talking about the co-parenting. Being co-parents means that two people come together with a single wish: to have a child in common.

I imagine that when you read this, certain doubts may come to your head, which is totally logical, since understanding this new conception forces us to expand the relational paradigm. Indeed, co-parenting separates the marital relationship from conception and upbringing, which is the antithesis of the parental style that humanity has practiced for millennia: children as the fruit of a relationship matrimonial.

A real example to better understand co-parenting

I will present you an example that I attended once in consultation.

Eva is 39 years old and for 10 years she has worked as a team leader in a technology multinational. Since then, his working hours have been tremendously long and demanding, which has been a major impediment to finding the man of his life. Actually he did, but 5 years ago, just before he got married, he thought better of it and left her.

Since then Eva, she has lived overturned in her work with the idea of ​​being a single mother before the age of 40 if she could not find anyone. He even went so far as to undergo tests to perform artificial insemination with donor sperm, but before taking the step she dropped an article into her hands on co-parenting in which she was mentioned on a web page dedicated to meeting this need. The idea of ​​sharing the upbringing of his future son and that he also had a father figure at the same time seemed very interesting. She also valued very positively the fact of being able to share the expenses that this would entail as well as the time spent without having to give up the rest of her life plots.

Shortly after creating a profile Eva she met Álvaro, a 35-year-old gay boy who had been in a relationship with his boyfriend for more than five years. He had always wanted children pBut for various reasons, he ruled out both the adoption option and the surrogate option. As soon as they met, the first thing they did was reveal their fears "this is very strange isn't it?" they said laughing. Both sensed that before taking the step they had to know each other deeply.

It's more, they had to become friends, two friends who would share for many years the upbringing, the expenses and the time involved in having a child much desired by both of them.

Being the child of a co-parenting relationship

On a psychological level, the newborn, child or adolescent fruit of co-parenting You do not have to have any special conflict as long as your parents have a good climate and they assume their commitment, that's the only requirement. If adults manage their day to day well, then the child will grow up in the same way as any other that is the result of a conventional and well-matched couple. It goes without saying that the dramas experienced by many children of conflictively separated parents are much more damaging for these minors.

In reality, co-parenting is nothing more than the result of the changes that society has been experiencing for a few decades. Just as the current social freedom has allowed the separation of sex from marriage, it is not necessary to be a couple to share parenting, just personal maturity and common sense.