What is Coaching and what is it for?

I make you a proposal: In this article you will not only find out what coaching is once and for all, but at the end I am going to ask you some questions that will help you begin to see the solution for the problems that you live and feel right now.

Because in order for you to know what coaching is, you must also experience it. Coaching It is not giving talks, motivating or doing workshops, but much more than that. It is a tool with which it is possible to achieve the change you need to solve your personal problems or professionals (in relation to your self-knowledge, self-esteem, fears, confidence in yourself, personal relationships, etc.).

If coaching works it is because you learn from yourself and when you change and develop yourself, everything that happens to you changes.

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What is coaching?

More than 10 years ago, coaching came into our lives as a very powerful personal development tool to achieve changes and new goals in your life. Little by little, it became so popular that poor quality training was offered and inexperienced "coaches" came out of nowhere.

So let's start at the end: a coach is not a motivator, nor someone who gives talks or advice on how to change your life in workshops or seminars. You, only you, are the person who will change and transform your life and a coach is only an expert who is well prepared to accompany you on that path (deep training and many years of experience).

This I can tell from my own experience. 7 years ago I was a coach and psychologist who accompanied people to achieve a great change and transformation in their lives. But what about me? In order to be a good coach, he had to set an example. That is why I decided to live my own personal development process and travel to other countries, to learn more about myself.

I dared to do something different, grow and improve myself. I have lived in 3 countries and I have accompanied people from up to 6 different countries. What I have learned in this experience is that people can change what happens to us if we commit to living a process of personal change. And that's what the coach is for: to accompany you to achieve it in an expert and professional way.

For this reason I created Human empowerment, an online personal development school where I have combined all this knowledge and I accompany you in processes of change so that develop the part of yourself that you need the most (your self-esteem, emotion management, self-knowledge, professional development) and build a new life.

To access Human Empowerment, you can see the contact details here.

A way to empower yourself

To tell you what coaching is, first you have to forget all the definitions that you have read before on a page like Wikipedia or similar. The vast majority are wrong.

The word coaching here does not come from the English verb "to train", but from the Hungarian term "kocz", which means carriage or horse carriage, since it is often said that a coaching process is like a journey from where you are now (how you feel, how you relate, how you act and what you achieve) to a place where you feel better, get new results and experiences.

I'm going to give you my personal definition: “Coaching is a tool for human empowerment and personal development through which a person, with the company of a professional Coach, lives a process of personal change and transformation that makes them live new experiences, achieve new goals, achieve more clarity and self-confidence and leave behind situations in your life that were annoying ".

Sounds good right? But I'm going to tell you more. I'm going to tell you where coaching really comes from, what you can achieve, why it works so well and how you can start your experience to grow and improve yourself.

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Coaching is based on the human being himself

Coaching is not a fad, since it comes from Socratic dialogue, which consists of accompanying a person in their process of change through a deep understanding of their way of seeing life and asking you questions to help you find a new vision and make the changes you need.

This way of working is what psychologists know works. The talks, advice, tips or impact techniques are only distractions that will not really change what happens to you, except yourself if you start a process of change and transformation.

The 5 factors

Do you want to know what are the bases that make coaching work? There are five factors that make coaching work, and they are the keys to any change process and personal development (also in psychological therapy). They are as follows.

1. Responsibility

In a Coaching process, it is you who takes the responsibility to change what happens to you through your own change. No one is going to give you advice nor to guide you, because then you would be depending on the coach. Here, it is you who takes action and grows and the coach accompanies you to achieve it. It is realistic, practical, ethical and safe.

2. Opening

In a Coaching process you discover that your problems are due to the fact that you cannot find solutions because your vision of what is happening is limited.

With coaching you learn to be more open, to have broader points of view, and that gives you greater creativity to understand the other, find solutions and new attitudes, actions and thoughts.

3. Developing

With coaching you will experience changes in yourself and that will mean greater personal development. Life is change, but only when you do something different that leads to that change.

4. Commitment

This is probably the most important factor. In a Coaching process there is a commitment between you and the coach, in such a way that you take action and begin to discover yourself, get to know yourself better and change your situation. Knowing that "there is someone there" who is with you is what changes everything.

5. You learn and unlearn

In a coaching process you learn to leave behind behaviors and attitudes that were freezing you in trouble, as if you lived within a circle where experiences were repeated over and over again. With the company of a coach, you leave that circle forever.

Questions to answer

Now, I am going to ask you those questions that can help you live your process of change. Answer them honestly and if it can be on paper. Let's go there!

¿What would you like to achieve in your life (in relation to you) that you have not yet achieved?

What do you think is the part of you that, if you change and transform, would help you get what you want and you resist? (your self-esteem, your self-knowledge, how you understand and manage your emotions, your fear, your anger or guilt, your personal relationships, your motivation, how you communicate, etc.)

Do you know what makes you motivated and want to grow and improve yourself as a person? Those reasons,depend on you or are related to external factors?

Would you like to transform your life into an extraordinary experience?

Your answers should help you take the first step. Know what you want to achieve, what has to change about you, and what you can do to get started.

If you want help and that company, I invite you to enter Human Empowerment.com, the school of personal development that I have created and in which I offer you all the knowledge and experiences that I have accumulated in these 10 years of processes and travels.

At the school you will find free processes to learn to understand your emotions, improve your self-esteem, increase your self-knowledge and give your life a purpose or improve the personal skills that make you a better professional.

You also find specific trainings to achieve changes in your life with my company as a coach, which you can do from home and with freedom of schedules.

Your great change begins when you commit to yourself that you are that change. Thus, it is how your life and what happens to you will change forever and give a different contribution to the world. And that, first of all, is the meaning of empowering yourself.