Give space and work with the shadow

Give space to the present.

Give space to be bad, collapsed, suffering.

Knowing that life is cyclical and after the moment of pain there will also be light, a door will also open, a channel.

know how to breathe silence and embracing uncertainty is vital in times of crisis. Furthermore, our society dictates that we cannot stop, that we must be fruitful and effective all the time.

Since childhood we are transmitted some productivity programs and fast times that are culturally accepted and reinforcedyes Later, we reach adulthood with problems due to this stress and hectic pace of life that disconnects us from our essence.

But not only this, but we do not allow ourselves rest, we link rest with disappointing ourselves and also others, our family and socio-cultural environment.

What a pity, knowing that rest and connecting with One is the only way to reach a state of fulfillment and that thanks to this state of peace and serenity we will be able to contribute our gifts and abilities to the rest in a harmonious and full way.

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connecting with oneself

One of the transcendent moments in which rest, being present and connecting with oneself prioritizing essential is when you work with your own shadow or are going through the period called "the dark night of the soul".

We all have a dark side of personality, according to Jungian theory corresponds to the archetype of the shadow. And until it is made conscious and brought to light, it can come to dominate your life from the start. darkness leading you to undesirable situations (even if you don't perceive it clearly at the time), unconsciously.

The shadow is this "bad" side that we all enclose and that corresponds to those aspects of our personality that are not authorized, we do not like, or that do not fit with the dictates of our society or education. This part of ourselves we left cornered and stored in our most forgotten and unconscious psyche because we reject it and do not want it in our lives.

This condition leads us to project that unconscious shadow on other people or circumstances like a mirror, without taking responsibility for said projection. This happens when you repeatedly attract certain people or scenes that are toxic, unhappy, or detrimental in some way to you. Finding yourself immersed in these contexts does not literally mean that this situation describes how you are or that you have that negativity within you, but that it may All this is pushing you to learn certain topics hidden behind your shadow, such as: putting limits on a person, a reality or a figure of authority; learn to prioritize and love yourself without conditions; believe in yourself in the first place; increase your personal security, etc.

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To do?

Shadow work is a passionate topic. When you finally face it and transcend it a new "I" appears, with an expanded self-awareness and an ability to be the Master. of your own demons and shadows to contribute your grain of sand for those people who may be going through similar periods.

When you are immersed in your own shadow in its most pronounced form, you are going through the "dark night of the soul".

I myself have experienced this confrontation with my own darkness, and I can assure you that there is a way out. towards the light, transmuting the darkness and integrating those parts of your Being in an integral and conscious way. This will imply changes and the courage to evolve and leave safe and familiar areas, betting more for you, for your projects, for your Being and your Life.

So, if you feel a soul emptiness in your daily life, check if what is missing in it is a job with this hidden part of you. Without the full work with the shadow; the soul and life is perceived as insubstantial and empty, and one cannot even understand why... And you, do you know your shadows? Have you investigated or worked on them at any time? Psychotherapeutic sessions are ideal spaces for this.