How do women flirt? 9 keys to understanding it

Attract women who seduce you It is not a gift, it is what nature dictates. And going against nature, has its consequences.

However, it is something that most "flirts" or seducers everyone has not yet found out. And it is that these, apply the formula totally the opposite.

Some people flirt... and others don't

And yes, applying a “quick formula” —a short cut — can bring short-term results. Doubtful and narrow results, actually. But, like foam, like miracle diets, like pyramid inversions and a long etcetera, those results will fade as quickly as they "emerged".

Then —and just as surely you have been a victim in some other field in your life—, you will be a victim of the “rebound effect”: No only you will not have achieved anything solid, but, probably, the next time you have to try again, it will still cost you more.

The Pyramid of Male Attraction: What is it and what does it teach us?

eye! Do not interpret this as something "reactive" with other men who try to do what they "good can". It actually saddens me to see that they have not understood anything. They have not understood that, like the food pyramid or the 

Maslow's pyramid of human needs, the pyramid of male attraction is posed totally the opposite.

In fact... Have you paid attention to the formulation of the opening sentence?

Instead of constructing it from a “masculine” perspective —which would be: trying to seduce the women who most attract you… which implies an active role—, we have adopted a feminine psychology. Something that, if you realize it, happens when, as a man, you stand out considerably.

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The women who seduce you have seen something special in you

To make it very obvious, think of great male references: artists, actors, athletes, successful entrepreneurs...

Specifically, he thinks of a famous singer. Far from having to make inhumane efforts or strategies so that some woman, sporadically, decides not to reject a sexual encounter with him, it happens that "curiously", has the "obligation" to express the side of him more "frusco" —That is, vulnerability, imperfection, defects—, to overcompensate for all that exuberant worth and thus, to be able to project closeness, familiarity, humanity... Well, this is the only way to lower his presence to a threshold where they - normal women - connect with him.

Hence, most of his lyrics “stink like nerd” —no offense. I mean that, you, as a man who cultivates every day to improve the current version of him, do not feel that you connect at all with that message that we would describe as "pink porn".

Men who apply terribly wrong strategies

And that is why, when a mere mortal - who has not understood anything - tries to apply the lyrics of those songs, he "dies" in the attempt. What you need most, precisely, is what these great successful men have the most: "courage." So, you must work on what you excel at the most and learn to "show" it. Eye, show it, not prove it. That is, you must do it subliminally and effectively.

But that is the subject for another article. Let's continue with what we have to do ...

What does seduction look like from a female perspective?

This time, I want to show you what human courtship looks and feels like through the eyes of a woman... when he meets a "common" man.

And this is a very important detail because the rules of the game are totally different.

In this way, I hope you start to realize that you should become the kind of man who has stopped seducing - freeing you of all the negative burden that it carries for your subconscious- to start attracting.

Now, sit back and enjoy how you look — if you don't stand out — from the most honest and profound perspective of a woman.

Human courtship — of mediocre man — from the eyes of a woman

1. I will never take the initiative

And when I use the words "never" and "initiative," I not only mean that I will never be the one to start the conversation, but that - unless I am especially "sensitive" on those dates and need to want to "go" - I will not advance at any time. If you want something, you will have to work very hard, as much as I want to die.

And be smart, there are many other interested parties and my patience has a limit ...

2. It's not that I don't know how to flirt, it's that you don't inspire me

Flirting, for an attractive woman like me, is not a challenge "Except for hitting the perfect man." Basically, because there is nothing that attracts men more than knowing how to show off your best attributes — and that has nothing to do with dressing like "anybody."

On the other hand, It is a big problem, because with a strategy like this, you are going to attract everything. Especially slimy.

If you can't get unmarked in the first few seconds and get my attention... "next". I have no time to waste, there is much to "distill". Mediocrity abounds and contributes very little.

3. I am not false because of evil, I simply have other interests

It is very likely that what you are telling me does not interest me at all. How is it then that I have a big smile, I keep my eyes on you and I seem to be listening enthusiastically?

One thing is what you see and another thing that may haunt my mind. Let's say that, inside, I have other plans.

It may be that he wants to get "nervous" -championship jealous- to another boy with whom I had something and who is now disinterested. A most "sensual" conversation with you - apart from putting you to the test - could set off alarms on my "true" goal. Or, in the worst case scenario, show me that it was just a fling and that he really isn't interested in me. "Bitter, but better to know it as soon as possible to turn the page. In which case, you could be in luck... if you pass the millions of tests that await you.

I can also be less twisted and just look for some reassurance. For this I prefer to "pretend" that I have chosen you to "try your luck" that night and, in reality, you are the one I trust the most that he will not try anything. In this way, I remove all the flies - harmless but very heavy - and those with whom I do not feel safe - because they could end up trying something that I do not want to happen. So, thanks for allowing me to be calm, "bear".

4. I can perfectly differentiate between confidence and arrogance

Going "macho" and bragging about what you have or have achieved, does not show you as a man of integrity. A league away I perceive that you are trying to compensate for deficiencies.

Every time I have had the privilege of meeting a man with integral confidence, I have been amazed the little need for validation it shows. The total — and so healthy — disinterest in trying to impress me and that attractive attitude of caring little about what I criticize about him because he feels very comfortable with his congruence. Because he has a solid foundation, a firm foundation… he's a man you can feel firm, secure about — and to whom you can give yourself blindfolded... And I'm going to stop talking about a man like that because I get "bad."

5. Your presence is the most important

While for you — common man— the most important thing is “what you see” —and in your personal case, how you see yourself—, For me, what I see is important, it is a minimum, but it is not enough.

To do this, you must be able to understand the difference between "appearance" and "presence."

As it is already well explained in the following video, I refer you to him.

6. I am very clear about what I do not want

And since what I want is not so clear to me, I better dedicate myself to what I do best: discard.

Maybe I was wrong about you and you deserve a second chance. With all due respect, for me that is irrelevant because there are so many to choose from that surely any other “worthwhile” will serve me.

Also, if you give up with a first rejection, are you really worth it?

I am afraid that, in that case, my friend, you have “accepted” that it is not. Of course, do not confuse persevering with being heavy.

If you want to delve into concepts like that, I recommend that you subscribe to free video course that is in the description of the video.

7. I know I'm your only option

And not precisely because I am talking to a selective man who only allows access to "his heart of him" to "the chosen one" but because you have also failed with the previous ones.

In fact, when I meet a man who makes me feel like he's a winner, I automatically assume I'm not the only one — regardless of whether it's true. And that if I want to aspire to that privilege, I will have to show that I am much more than a pretty face and a body of heart attack.

8. Being so attractive can be a curse

It may be the envy of those who have not been lucky enough to be born with such genes sexy — either they don't know how to take advantage or they don't have the determination to work hard to get the most out of it potential-, but the truth is that everything has its bad side.

Although it is true that I would not change for a worse version of myself - Not crazy! And yes, I keep striving to improve myself every day — great power comes great responsibility. And a great responsibility in the wrong hands can be a real nightmare.

Do you know the kind of "unpleasant" men that I meet in my day to day life and who try to get my attention in the most unfortunate ways? I am convinced that being a hottie is not something we are all prepared for. That is why I understand that many do not even try.

And it is that, at first it can seem very beautiful - especially in youth - but as the novelty - feeling irresistible - becomes everyday life and finally monotony — men's behavior repeats itself every day like an endless pattern — life becomes predictable and bored. To the point where you don't want to go out alone to get a break or you don't want to go anywhere and mingle with everyone... out of self love.

This is why it is important to understand what effect you have on others and learn to manage it properly.. Something not easy, but necessary, if you want, not only to have mental health, but a full life - there are wonderful men waiting for you if you know how to manage “your power”.

9. The more you attract me, the more I will criticize you

This is something that has cost me a lot to understand, but it has been magical for my emotional and mental health.

Summing it up very, very much, As a woman, I am attracted to a man who is confident and does not need me. But that makes me feel very, very insecure. Therefore, I need to verify that I am important enough to him that I can trust that he wants the best for me.

This leads to endless contradictions. Contradictions that are like fire and air: they cannot exist without each other but require balance. An excess of either one can kill the other.

For example:

• I need to know that I am special and unique to him. But if that is too obvious... my libido is low. Knowing that there are other women interested and that they could be potential threats, he takes away part of that "security" and puts me on alert... lighting the flame.
• I love a self-sufficient man and that he knows what he wants. If he's so determined that he doesn't need me at all, I feel like I'm not that special anymore. Therefore, he must know in what way I can help him so that he feels useful and valued to me — although it is much better if I am capable of doing it. On the contrary, you must know how to listen to my criticisms and differentiate between the useful ones and the “garbage”. Many times our emotions win the battle and we criticize only out of spite. When a man agrees to that "emotional blackmail" lose quite a few integers. However, if he remains firm and congruent with what he wants, no matter how angry he shows me, deep down I love that. That is why many discussions end with sex. In addition, if I interpret that it is not only congruent with his ideal but that he understands that I am like this out of spite and not because he considers me right, I understand that I am with a man with a superior emotional intelligence and there it does have me "crazy lost", although my ego prevents me from showing it and it may piss me off even more with any insinuation about it.

I hope I have helped you with a little light and have dissuaded you from walking the right path.

In conclusion

As you have seen, the way of seeing the world is completely different and, without that information, you not only play at a disadvantage but you are "out".

On the other hand, the only way to unleash your irresistible appeal is by understanding the psychology behind it and learning how to apply it to your personal case. And, you will agree with me that the greatest experts in attractiveness are women.

So tell me, what has surprised you about this feminine vision? Have you had a similar experience? Do you have something else to contribute? I wait for you in the debate, below, in the comments.