10 gestures that reveal that a man likes you

Non-verbal language is one of the main areas in which attraction is expressed. Therefore, looking at the gestures that a person uses to communicate voluntarily or involuntarily with another, is useful to estimate whether there is interest or not.

In this article we will see a selection of the gestures that reveal that a man likes you, although several of them are also true in women.

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Gestures that indicate that you attract a man

These gestures are not ordered according to a specific criterion. Read about them and see if they suit your social relationships and conversations with men.

1. Leans forward frequently

The fact of keeping the body leaning forward, especially visible when the other person is sitting, is another of the signs that denotes attraction.

It is a physical expression of the extent to which you have an interest in the other person, since This position is the one adopted when you want to carefully examine something or someone, albeit in a sneaky way. It is one more resource to keep distances short.

2. He touches his hair a lot

It is not just a sign that there is some tension or nervousness. What's more, in many cases it is simply due to the desire to have the hair placed in the best possible way, and correct the small "flaws" that may appear over time and when moving, for example.

3. Looks at you in the front

It seems like a minor detail, but it is not. It is relatively common that when talking to someone we do so by maintaining a position that is not directly frontal with respect to the person with which we interact, but when there is attraction involved, the norm is that the torsos remain facing each other, and not only the faces.

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4. The use of controlled gaze

In normal conversations, we practically do not pay attention to how we use our gaze: we just look at the other person's face, and that's it.

However, one of the gestures that reveal that a man likes you is that he often takes conscious control of his gaze, and performs with it a tour of the parts of the face. This is noted by paying attention to whether there is a progression in the positions of the pupils, rather than stay more or less in the same place or move but without staying long in a different place from where they were before.

In the area of ​​attraction and sexuality, men are very visual, and for this reason this gesture provides a lot of information.

5. Show your arms

Regardless of whether they are relatively muscular or not, showing their arms in a subtle way It is one of the ways that many men express interest caused by the attraction they feel for someone. The arms are not only a symbol of power and strength; they also express the ability to physically protect, something that has traditionally been associated with parenthood.

6. The pupils are dilated

This is not technically a gesture, as it is an automatic reaction that cannot be controlled by will, and it is also a typical phenomenon in both men and women, but it does not lose importance. When faced with something that attracts us, the pupils of our eyes tend to dilate, probably to be able to capture in greater detail what interests us.

7. Stays close

It may seem obvious, but we must not forget that proxemics, that is, the realm of distances in social relationships, is also part of what expresses attraction through the gestures.

The truth is that helping the space that separates us from others to become smaller and smaller not only communicates attraction. What's more, makes true intimacy between two people more likely (Although sometimes it does not work out and only serves to create uncomfortable moments, of course).

8. Synchronize your non-verbal language

Another typical fact that denotes attraction through gestures has to do with subtly imitating the postures, positions and rhythms of the other person. Also, the surprising thing about this is that most of the time it is something unconscious, which appears spontaneously and without having to do with a pre-established plan.

For example, if the other person adopts a communication style in which there are many gestures made quickly, the other person will also do it, although perhaps in a more moderate way. The same will happen if the person generating attraction rests his head in the palm of his hand, or if he relaxes in the chair, etc.

9. Shows expression of surprise frequently

Another of the gestures that express attraction typical of men has to do with facial gestures of surprise. When someone generates attraction, practically anything that makes a slight impression is experienced with more surprise than would be normal.

And it is not about something conscious or feigned; really the feeling of surprise is there; it is part of the feeling of euphoria that comes from being around someone we like.

10. The feet point to you

The fact that the tips of the feet are oriented towards the other person is one of those basic gestures to establish whether there is attraction or not. That is to say, that is not enough, but that it is important to rule out cases and see where there is really little interest.

The only case in which there could be attraction while this rule is not met is one in which the nerves (or circumstances that have nothing to do with the conversation) make you want to end the dialogue as much as before.

Bibliographic references:

• Kaplan, M. F.; Olczak, P. V. (1971). "Attraction toward another as a function of similarity and commonality of attitudes". Psychological Reports. 28 (2): 515–521.
• Klohnen, E. C.; Mendelsohn, G. TO. (1998). "Partner Selection for Personality Characteristics: A Couple-Centered Approach". Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin. 24 (3): 268–278.