This is how the excessive use of social networks influences the stability of the couple

The degree to which a relationship is strong and offers well-being to those who form it is a aspect of life that is influenced, even in part, by the context in which the persons.

For better and for worse, the social environment and cultural dynamics to which we expose ourselves when starting a courtship or getting married are elements that will determine the way in which that love relationship develops. However, that as individuals we can hardly change that social context does not mean that our way of interacting with it does not have an effect on that bond that we establish with our partner.

The same thing happens with the development of new technologies; regardless of what we do with our lives, new electronic devices and digital platforms are emerging around us, but we always have room for maneuver to decide how to relate to these elements and how to let them affect our courtship or marriage.

But unfortunately, many people hardly stop to think about the extent to which their constant use of Social relationships damages your most important relationships to the point of contributing to destabilizing a relationship as a couple. Therefore, here we will

a review of the ways in which social media can lead a marriage or courtship to a crisis situation.

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What do we understand by stable couple relationships?

First, let's see what are the main keys that make a relationship stable.

1. I respect

Respect is one of the fundamental characteristics in any satisfactory human relationship and especially in long lasting relationships.

Respect the other person at all times, as well as take their ideas and preferences into account when making a decision, strengthens the foundations of the relationship and generates a state of well-being and a feeling of belonging to it in both parties.

In the same way, feeling heard and respected by the other person and perceiving that their own opinions and ideas count, contributes to increasing one's self-esteem and ultimately, to feeling loved and appreciated.

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2. Common interests

With some exceptions, when there are interests, ideas, preferences or ways of seeing life very divergent between the members of a couple, it is difficult that this can become durable in the weather.

That is why it is so important to be able to carry out joint leisure activities that both members can enjoy in the same way and at the same time spending time together.

These activities can be: going to the movies, practicing a sport that you both like, watching your favorite series, attending a concert or having common hobbies.

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3. Future plans

Likewise, share plans for the future compatible with each other and have similar ideas about what the future of the couple should be like it is also an essential element to achieve a stable partner.

Again, it is clear that those couples whose future plans are similar will be more durable than those whose members have completely opposite future aspirations.

4. Reconcile schedules

Another of the fundamental requirements for a couple to achieve some stability over time is that it be able to coordinate throughout the week and make each of their schedules compatible to spend time together.

Sometimes this is difficult, since daily obligations and long work hours can make it very difficult to find time to spend as a couple.

Nevertheless, As long as there is a will on both sides, it is possible to find a few hours a day to dedicate to life as a couple.

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5. Homework distributions

As in any coexistence, the equitable sharing of household chores is crucial to achieving a healthy and positive domestic climate.

Have a good predisposition to collaborate to the maximum in any aspect of home care denotes interest in making the relationship work, as well as respect for the other party relationship.

6. Communication

Communication is essential for the proper functioning of any relationship and the lack of it can endanger its future.

Maintain a good level of communication It has to do with the ability to express one's feelings and ideas, but it also consists of being receptive to what the other person wants to express and act accordingly in case you have to change your own attitude.

Being aware of what the other person needs from us or identifying patterns of behavior that may be harmful is also a sign that communication in the couple is optimal.

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7. Confidence

Confidence in the other is one of the unmistakable signs of a stable relationship, and constitutes one of the fundamental pillars to build a lasting bond.

Sometimes it is hard to win, as it is built over the years and demonstrated day after day in the course of the relationship. The same way, Once that trust is lost, some people may find it difficult to trust their partner againThat is why it is such an important element in any relationship.

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How does dependence on social networks affect the relationship?

Now that we have seen what are the fundamental pillars of stable relationships, let's see how in which the excessive use of social networks can interrupt the course of that life project in common.

1. It reduces the perception that the other is respected

Seeing how our partner seems to pay more attention to the mobile phone than to us is an experience that is so annoyed by what she supposes at that moment because of the implications about how little that person cares about having us in bill. This is especially painful if it occurs during face-to-face conversations..

2. Difficulty talking about common interests

Reliance on social media makes face-to-face conversations short, fragmented, and poor in content. This makes engaging in stimulating dialogue very difficult for both of you, and makes the communicative exchange frustrating.

3. It leads the person to focus only on the present

The bombardment of stimuli that comes through social networks makes it easy for the person who constantly connects to these digital platforms to worry only about the here and now, or for relatively short-lived interests. This is an obstacle to setting long-term goals and making plans for the future together that are truly successful.

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4. It leads to schedule disorganization

Dependence on social media means being very vulnerable to the constant distractions that come through notifications and notifications of new content in the feed. What's more, these digital platforms are designed to make users lose track of time.

Therefore, the excessive use of these means makes the distribution of tasks and planning very complicated, leading to discussions and the accumulation of tasks.

5. Communication noticeably worsens

As because of all the above communication becomes very frustrating, the expectation is established that it is better not to speak if it is not totally "necessary" for short and medium term reasons that are easy to determine.

6. Distrust arises

TO cause of this relative isolation between the two people, who already communicate much less, uncertainty arises, and it costs more to trust each other and the future of the relationship.

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