This is how your beliefs limit or help you thrive

We are walking beliefs: based on everything we believe our realities are created. But how do we make these beliefs positive and help us thrive, instead of limiting us?

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Understanding limiting beliefs

Limiting beliefs are those that will always be an obstacle on our path of personal development. They take the form of negative thinking that leads us to look for that excuse so that we do not do what we have to do; If it is a feeling of fear or frustration, what can happen with those limiting beliefs is that they are stronger and that obey reason little at the time of working them.

On the other hand, beliefs in general play a very important role in the construction of our path. Not only because what you believe is, but also, based on that thought, you will take a key direction in your life. That path is affected when we see our emotional wounds, we always justify ourselves in them to stop doing the important things, we always anchor ourselves to not believe that our situation can become something better. The most common injuries are:

• Humiliation
• Rejection
• Injustice
• Lost
• Abandonment

Through these wounds we can observe a hurt person, with a very strong belief, ingrained and linked to their pain, and with very little hope of getting out of that situation, of reaching their greatest potential. If we had the opportunity for someone to help us see that behind that person there is a person full of strength, with all the gifts for creativity, capable of being independent, capable of taking charge of his life and not the other way around... But many times, that more superficial layer and based on appearances helps to stop any attempt at improvement.

Once that person wakes up and manages to see that hidden potential, the beliefs that limit the possibility of personal development are put aside and come to light. the beliefs of opportunity. I like to call them that, because when a person creates an opportunity in his head and believes in it faithfully, he will be able to move everything he has around him to fulfill it.

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Moving from Limiting Beliefs to Opportunity Beliefs

Then... What are the steps to follow in order to discover your limiting belief, disassemble it, disintegrate it and thus bring forth an ocean of possibilities?

1. Discover limiting beliefs

How to do it? For this, it is important to develop self-knowledge skills: detect trap-thoughts, identify feelings and emotions... If you feel stuck in some area of ​​your life, if you feel that you are in what in coaching we call "the crazy eight" in which everything is repeatedIf you are feeling that you are not moving forward, it is advisable to involve another person to help you with this process; A coach would be the best one to make you discover, of all the beliefs you have, those that limit you, so that from there you can dismantle them.

2. Work them without fear

We think that working with this belief that is limiting us is to stop being who we are and become someone elseBut when we seek to bring out our greatest potential, normally what happens is that we have not been connected with our truth, which is where this inexplicable force comes from.

3. Disintegrate them

The process is going to be a bit challenging; Throughout this you will have thoughts that at certain times will make you want to return to the state that made you feel comfortable. The person who is working with you helping you dismantle beliefs and make room for the integration of something new for you will need to take you through a path where trust is the first tool, and you should let things flow to get closer to your desired result.

4. Go from a dysfunctional approach to one that brings more potential

One of the great results that the client will obtain is that he will live the experience of changing the approach from which he was seeing everything. Will experience a feeling of freedom And that new way of perceiving things will become a prosperous belief, because from it you can work in the field of the positive.

I have always liked to see this belief process as the opportunity to make our software (the mind) have new adaptations and thus expand our capacity. The more capacity you have in the area of ​​your life that you want to expand, the better and more satisfying the path will be.

When I have had to do this work with my clients, we have managed to reach extraordinary trips in which limiting beliefs become prosperity opportunity beliefs for your way. The most advisable thing is to let go of the resistance and open up to new and better worlds, to your future and the creation of it.