Families in times of crisis

There are families that contain a lot of problems.

They lack the development of the personality of at least one member of the family, since this element is absent, none of the other members reaches have it unless you become aware of the meaninglessness of your life and start working on it in order to break a great dysfunctional pattern that exists in that family.

Maladaptive patterns are responsible for this tendency to be walking in a circle and go through the same point over and over again. Given this, it is healthy to go to a therapist to analyze this pattern and be able to break it.

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Personality development in the family system

The personality that one person genuinely develops will help the entire family system evolve; However, many times the family does not want to change and unconsciously and consciously puts work on those who will generate changes.

The system crashes because something at an unconscious level tells family members that it is time to change and they in turn

prevent the growth of that family memberas they know that by changing this, everyone else will be forced to change and exit the comfort zone.

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The family

The family is a first system in which behavior patterns occur, which are practiced and then put into practice in other systems abroad.

exist two ways to interact with systems:

• 1- The behaviors from home are taken to another system abroad.
• 2- The behaviors of an outside system are practiced at home.

Either way, there are patterns that hinder the behaviors or patterns that help to give fluidity to the behavior and mind of the person.

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Interventions to get out of dysfunctional patterns

Let's see several forms of intervention to break these dysfunctional dynamics.

One of them occurs when at least one part of the family system starts to do different things; In such cases, the effects this has on other people should be reviewed.

Second, creating patterns is key imagining the future and doing psychogeography. In the same space where the person is, they visualize their future and future events. Once this is done, the person begins to walk in that space (it can be the office or the house) and in this way is breaking patterns through behavior and display.

It is also useful to draw a labyrinth or a path in which the person sets the goal first and visualizes it, consciously reviews how he feels and evaluates whether what he feels is positive. If what you feel is negative, you must stop until you find a goal that is positive., that generates pleasant emotions and transmits tranquility. The most important thing is to see, imagine the process step by step without wanting it all and without having lived the process, since doing it accelerated, the person will roll over on the road like a runner running so fast that he goes forward and falls.

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Overcome the family crisis

There are types of families in which the genuine personality of each member is not distinguished, and there are families in which each member has developed her personality.

To help everyone's personality flourish, it is important to create dynamics in which each member of the family should be able to freely choose what she wants. Example: when children are young, they must choose their clothes to wear, as well as distinguish what foods they like and Which ones are not (the tastes of the people must be respected as long as this does not harm any member of the family).

Families go into crisis because there are times to evolve and change, and when at least one person "gets stuck" (the parents) the whole system gets stuck.

To overcome crises you must know that there are periods of changes in families; They are cycles, and as the members of a family grow, the minds of the family members also change or should change. If a mind (father or mother) stops growing, it will block its partner and therefore the entire family system.

At least one person (father or mother) must continue to grow and develop on a personal level so that the other members of the family unconsciously do the same.