Why cry over spilled milk?

In authenticity and true love, there will always be difficulties.

In general, every couple relationship brings with it several stages based on the management of differences, which should always be taken into account for the progress of a healthy relationship.

Faced with this kind of experience, do not stay crying over spilled milk; rather, fight for the love of your partner if it is really important to you and learn to live together respecting the individuality of each person.

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The stages of the couple's relationship

All couple relationships go through several stages: attraction, falling in love, disappointment, overcoming crisis, coexistence, true love and finally companionship.

During these periods several changes usually take place in the person, which allow a better relationship and knowledge of both the couple and oneself.

However, these stages are usually quite painful, because, although you are constantly learning, the inner self always comes to the fore and it is difficult to accept mistakes, both from the partner and one's own.

For this reason, in couple relationships we tend to evaluate the loved one constantly, even unconsciously. And we do it starting from an idea of ​​what "perfection" is shaped according to psychological foundations that have been established since childhood. The same happens with the concepts of "the partner" and "the ideal" of the person with whom one wants to be (an improved version of the partner).

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From idealization to discomfort

But... What happens when this idealization is not what is expected, and reality is consciously observed? There it is when the suffering, the pain, the disappointment, the frustration and the crisis of every relationship arrives.

True love and the desire for the continuity of the relationship appear when reality is accepted; however, it is important to love and accept the partner without letting Being, without ceasing to accept oneself; without breaking our principles or harming your morale.

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To do?

A couple relationship is two, and it is important to always add and never subtract; it is also important to grow, water and bloom together; namely, transform for the well-being of a healthy relationship.

Many times, due to daily adversities and the differences that will always exist, important conflicts are generated; during moments of anger each one will bring out the worst in themselves and will look for the culprit of the affectation, which will make them feel that there is no turning back and that the relationship should be terminated. In these tight situations you will think: Why cry over spilled milk? It's better to finish!

But this is the daily life of couples. Relationships are like a roller coaster that will take you to feel a variety of emotions and feelings that are often looking for a better way out; that's why it should be highlighted the importance of mutual forgiveness with beneficial changes and a assertive communication.

Just as spilled milk can no longer be collected, the same thing happens with relationships: the words spoken and the deeds carried out cannot be reversed, because damage has already been caused, which can only be done if there is genuine repentance and forgiveness from the heart. continue.

Trust, respect, empathy, teamwork, forgiveness, and above all love, will make emotions and feelings solid bases to continue. Not looking for the culprit, but the root of the conflict; Accepting mistakes and committing to change, the two people will learn how together they can fight one, two and many more problems that they will always encounter. The dialogue will give them a thousand reasons to continue growing and strengthening the love relationship.