How to regain trust with my partner when he gives me another chance?

Some couple relationships last a lifetime, others end up breaking up due to multiple causes, and also the case of those broken relationships that are reconciled again by the will of both members of the same. The first two often get all the attention because they offer "closed" and easy-to-understand explanations of relationships. successful and unsuccessful couples, but this makes us overlook the ability we have to rebuild love ties and coexistence.

To better understand how a relationship can get back on track, in this article we'll cover the topic of how the couple's trust is restored after they have given us another chance after a crisis.

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How to recover the trust of our partner after a crisis?

With the aim of recovering this trust, we can carry out a series of strategies to improve coexistence, practical guidelines that will be of great use to us to repair a broken relationship and that usually serve as the basis for the therapy of partner. Let's see what they are.

1. Show sustained interest

Show a genuine interest in wanting to get back together with the other person and not just to get their forgiveness It is an excellent way to start the path towards reconciliation of the couple.

Couple relationships are generally arranged by making the other party see that we have a real interest in repairing the damage caused and that we are willing not only to take all our blame but to change all the previous negative dynamics that precipitated the rupture of the relationship.

2. Demonstrate with facts the change

The will to change is demonstrated by the facts and that is precisely how it is also shown in relationships that we are willing to change for the benefit and future of the same.

Going beyond words and taking action is the best way to take advantage of this second chance, and we must remember that the fact of That they grant it to us does not mean that the relationship will continue as before, but rather that radical changes are necessary for all levels.

That is why we must demonstrate on our part that there is a total commitment and we are expected to put in extra effort in the early days and weeks, it is not enough to continue with the usual routine.

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3. Propose concrete solutions

Proposing concrete solutions to prevent the resurgence of the problem that caused the crisis is another of the strategies that we can follow in order to improve the situation with our partner and start a new life.

This may consist, for example, in carrying out a more equitable and detailed distribution of housework if the problem was an asymmetry blatant about them, proposing to make a detailed schedule of the days of the week and the housework that each one does, if it was not done before such thing.

Each solution we propose must be realistic and adjusted to the needs of the other person and taking into account the capabilities of both., and must also be aimed at improving the things that previously caused conflicts or problems of any kind.

4. Improve communication

Communication is one of the fundamental pillars of any successful relationship; That is why psychology professionals recommend training social and communication skills. to avoid unnecessary misunderstandings that may lead to arguments.

We will achieve this by asking our partner if he notices progress on our part to learn from our mistakes and improve everything we can along the way, as well as ask for some kind of indication about what we can to improve.

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5. not be submissive

Falling into a dynamic of complete submission towards the other person is easy when trying to gain their trust, but it is highly inadvisable, since this would encourage the need to rebuild the relationship to be mixed, on the one hand, Y the tendency to do everything the other person says uncritically, for the other.

Although we have decided to give in as much as possible so that the relationship works again, we continue to be people with interests and criteria own, and we still have the ability to show disagreement when we do not like something, always keeping in mind the common good of the relationship.

6. Analyze your own mistakes

Analyze your own past mistakes, reflect on them and learn from what happened too It will help us to lay the foundations of the new relationship and to commit ourselves not to commit them again..

In addition to that, it is highly advisable to apologize whenever we have made serious mistakes that may have offended or hurt others. our partner at any time past or present, not treating them as unimportant if the other person does not share that opinion.

7. Sincerity above all

In addition to repairing all the damage done in the past and committing to change in this new phase of the relationship, we must also establish new relationship dynamics. based on honesty and transparency.

Sincerity is essential to recover the trust of the couple, especially if in the previous relationship we have had problems when it comes to being fully clear with our intentions in aspects that concern you two. Without this ingredient it is almost impossible to plan for the future together.

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8. Go to couples therapy

A therapist specialized in the field of couples is the most recommended option in case none of the aforementioned works, since will provide you with personalized support adapted to your needs.

Going to a psychological consultation will help us to share everything that we want to talk about in a calm way both with the other person as with the therapist and in it we will also incorporate useful practical strategies to use in our day to day and improve as partner.

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If you are looking for professional psychological assistance, please contact me.

Am Javier Ares, General Health Psychologist, and I can assist you in person or online.