If you want to get married and avoid divorce, do it at this age.

At present, divorces are the order of the day and marriages seem to be on the decline. According to Eurostat (the European statistical office), In Spain there are fewer and fewer marriages, as they have fallen by up to 56% in the last 50 years.

These figures have aroused the interest of many psychologists or sociologists. An investigation claims to have found the ideal age to get married, and in this article we echo this information

Modern society and the commodification of couple relationships

Relationships between people and the links established between them evolve over the years, especially in relationships. When things go well, relationships are strengthened and the feeling of love grows., and there is a greater degree of rapport, fidelity and intimacy. However, that is not always the case.

Many relationships or marriages stay halfway, and more today. In a society like ours, which tends towards individuality, selfishness and individualism tend to predominate in marital crises. Couples break up more and more at the rate that society evolves towards the commodification of love relationships. The links are increasingly superficial.

Two divorces for every marriage

The causes of crises are varied. Some couples break up because one party doesn't feel loved., there has been an infidelity, one of the two has unrealistic expectations about the marriage or simply monotony. Whatever the cause, the reality is there, and the data does not lie.

As stated in an article in the ABC newspaper: “for every marriage there are two divorces in Spain”. A fact that has attracted a lot of attention and that shows the reality of Spanish society.

crisis and divorce

Crises are not bad in themselves. Sometimes, the conflicts that arise within a relationship can strengthen the bonds of the couple, making them feel more united. This is because these conflicts, if managed correctly, can serve as learning. Thinking that relationships do not go through bad times is not real.

The causes of this situation have many origins, but just a few decades ago it was not so common to hear the word Divorce, the alternative of many couples when a marital crisis arrives, is to stop living with their lover and slam the door relationship.

• If you want to better understand this phenomenon, you can read our article: “Marriage crises: 5 keys to understanding them”

The best age to get married

So what is the solution to this problem? A team of researchers seems to have found a relationship between age and divorce rates. This research affirms that the ideal age to get married is between 28 and 32 years. The research was carried out by Nick Wolfinger, a sociologist at the University of Utah (USA), and was published in the Institute for Family Studies.

According to the conclusions of this study, couples who marry in this age group divorce less than those who do so at other ages. The study author, for his research, he carried out an analysis with American statistics, with data grouped in two stages, from 2006-2010 and 2011-2013, and then compared the former with the latter. The results showed that between the ages of 28 and 32 there were fewer divorces, but that divorces increased for each year that they were further away from this last figure. In other words, at 42 there are more chances of divorce than at 35.

Some conclusions of the study

If these data are confirmed, what are the causes? The author of the study affirms that it is very likely that 28 to 32 years is the ideal age "because at that age, individuals have already reached a certain degree of maturity."

Many people at that time in their lives are already financially solvent and do not have the same desire to experiment that younger people may have. They have a more or less clear idea of ​​what they want in their life. Besides, unlike older ages, they still have a chance to change their habits and adapt to the lifestyle and common goals that living with a partner requires.

Mature love, one of the keys

Therefore, maturity is one of the keys that the best age to get married is between 28 and 32 years. And it is that, throughout our life, we can fall in love more than once.

But the first crushes can become more irrational, and the madness caused by the intensity of these loves can take over us. Over the years, we see relationships in a different way, coming to understand that relationships are a constant negotiation in which both members of the couple have their needs.

These types of mature experiences end up being much more satisfying and, many times, they are possible thanks to a love from the past, which made us see things differently. In a more realistic and mature way.

First loves can be unforgettableBut that's not to say that those first feelings of passion and attraction are enough to keep the flame of love alive forever. You also learn to love and to be in a couple too. For a relationship to work, you also have to learn how to make it work.

• If you want to know more about this type of love, you can read our article: “Mature love: why is the second love better than the first?”