10 behaviors that a woman should not accept from her partner

The world has changed a lot in the last century. but unfortunately there are still many remains of the deeply macho culture that until not so long ago dominated our society.

This is also noticeable in the field of Couple relationships, in which, too often, the irrationality of love is mixed with the irrationality of a system of roles of gender in which the male gender is more likely to have a dominant role, directly or indirectly, over the other person.

Of course, this is not always the case, and in many couples the harmony between its two members is perfectly healthy, but that does not prevent many women from becoming involved in a type of toxic relationships that damages them almost daily, something that, based on the data on domestic violence, is less frequent in the case of men. They simply have a greater facility to assume a dominant role or one in which they are not subject to the other person's designs.

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Couples who treat each other as if they were an object

A good part of the harmful or uncomfortable and degrading experiences that can be generated in couple relationships are born from the reification, that is to say, the tendency to treat someone as if they were an object, something without genuine motivations, without objectives and without a valid point of view on its own.

Objectification is normally something automatic and involuntary, and in the case of men, is favored by a cultural heritage in which important decisions are made by the male gender. Women can also treat a man as an object (and it happens frequently in certain contexts), but in the context of the couple it is less frequent because they are not predisposed to it for this reason cultural.

Taking action on it

It is precisely because of the automatic and unconscious nature of objectification that it is not always easy to detect symptoms that in a harmful dynamics are taking place in the relationship, behaviors directed towards the woman (usually, although sometimes also towards the man that they do not have to be put up with and that it is important to stop these harmful and demeaning behaviors.

Identifying toxic behaviors

The ones that follow are some guidelines to detect this type of problem and knowing how to distinguish them from what is "normal and expected" in a healthy relationship.

1. The systematic screams

Everyone can yell when they get angry or when they get emotional in a special way, but they can also it is possible that men use shouting in a systematic way to impose their point of view and show their potential violence indirectly.

This is noticeable when you notice that the other person yells for no reason as soon as a point of concern is expressed. contrary view, or just at the beginning of discussions in which reasons have not yet been given for the anger. If this is repeated in a systematic way, it is very possible that shouting is being used with an intimidating desire.

2. the insults

In couple relationships, there are no reasons that can justify an insult. Of course, there are cases and cases, and sometimes some derogatory comments can be used jokingly as a comment on behavior that is funny.

However, insults with connotations of contempt or in a situation of anger are a serious symptom, since they are still a totally inadmissible verbal aggression.

3. the eternal condescension

Treating the partner as if they were minors and had no criteria it basically means that the other person is believed to lack the characteristics that define an adult. Unjustifiable condescension is a way of indirectly belittling the other person.

We must distinguish this type of behavior from those that are aimed at teaching a person a subject or skill that they do not master, because it is very specific. However, condescension is a type of attitude that is present regardless of the topic around which the conversation revolves.

4. The continued lies

Honesty is one of the basic ingredients in relationships, so the lies they are doubly serious in them. If the deceptions keep recurring, something is seriously wrong.

5. Infidelity

feel sexual attraction towards people outside the couple or having a very intimate relationship with other people for whom one could feel attraction is not always infidelity in love; after all, there are polyamorous relationships. However, in monogamous couple relationships, which tend to be the norm, it is very important not to break the consensus about the commitments that each member of the relationship must make.

It must be borne in mind that, once the rules have been broken and a crime has been committed, infidelity, it is easier to reoffend. The fact that men tend to have more intense sexual urges is no excuse, since relationships This type is based on symmetry: both members have to abide by the same rules so that the relationship does not mislead

6. Teasing about one's own tastes

Spending a lot of time together implies also knowing the tastes and hobbies of the other person well. One way in which you can show condescension towards the other person is making disparaging comments about the partner's music style, hobbies, or cultural tastes.

If these jokes are repeated all the time, they stop being funny comments (or not) and become a way of making clear one's moral and intellectual superiority. It is a toxic behavior that should be avoided.

7. The classism

Teasing can also be about the partner's socioeconomic background: the economic level of your family or the land you come from, especially if it is associated with a rural or poor environment.

Constantly remembering the other person's humble origins is implying that she is the partner. who has "rescued" it from that means, and therefore, can give rise to the idea that there is a debt with she.

8. Threats and physical attacks

There is very little to say about this section: hitting and attempts to be scary are a reason to immediately break the relationship and take legal action. They are not justifiable in any way.

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9. When it is assumed that the woman should take care of the house

There is no excuse that can justify that a woman should take care of the housework simply because she is a woman.. What is expected is that both members of the couple are in charge of these functions equally, unless there are specific conditions that prevent it.

Believing that the natural space for women is the kitchen is the clearest example of a macho mentality, which is totally toxic.

10. Jealousy and sick secrecy

If the partner tries to dominate the way the other person spends time alone (or with friends), they are being more than a partner and becoming a jailer. jealousy they are a problem that is fundamentally individual.

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