How does Couples Therapy help to rekindle the flame of the relationship?

With the passage of time, the relationships of a couple that began to be characterized by passion and the intensity of love falling in love can deteriorate and the flame that was burning strong at the beginning can go out slowly. In many cases, this gives rise to what is usually called "roommate syndrome", a dynamic of coexistence in which there is hardly any intimacy or expression of feelings.

To prevent this from happening, couples therapy has been proposed as one of the solutions most chosen by people who struggle for save your relationship from monotony, the passage of time and any problem that may eventually arise that degrades the bond loving. Let's see how to work from couples therapy to rekindle the flame of the relationship in a courtship or marriage.

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Benefits of couples therapy by rekindling the flame of the relationship

By placing our relationship in the hands of a professional we are guaranteeing that any problem present in our relationship can be dealt with and overcome, thus helping to rekindle the flame of relationship.

If you want to know the benefits of couples therapy and how it can save a relationship and completely renew it when it has reached a point of boredom and lack of passion, it continues reading.

1. Avoid taboo topics

Couples therapy is a space for communication in which all issues that may be taboo between both people are addressed, preventing some topics from becoming "blocked" and generating silence around them, mainly in the field of sexuality.

Sexuality in the couple must be open and based on sincere communication, so that both members of the same have the freedom and the enough confidence to be able to comment on their tastes, needs, aspirations and fantasies, assertively and always respecting the other person.

In a psychologist's office, the conditions are established so that any topic about sexuality can be discussed openly and possible dysfunctional dynamics in that area are corrected.

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2. Allows addressing infidelities

Infidelity is usually one of the main reasons why a couple decides to embark on a process of psychological therapy with a specialized professional.

The infidelity crisis is one of the most common reasons for consultation received by expert psychologists in the field of couples and a very delicate subject that must be dealt with adequately, since its resolution can mark the continuity or the rupture of the couple.

To address infidelities, it is important, once again, to enhance communication between both people and favor that emotions and feelings that have been blocked or repressed for a long time are expressed, so that they can make way to a process of repairing the damage caused that shows interest in rebuilding the commitment that has been violated.

3. Allows you to deal with conflicts

Couples therapy also helps to address conflicts that may have festered over the years and that have not been able to be resolved by both members of the couple.

The mediation of a professional helps to overcome this type of conflict, finding effective solutions from an external point of view, which may have been overlooked by the members of the couple.

These conflicts can be of all kinds: discussions that go on forever over time and by creating discomfort are never fully resolved; problems with children, family problems, past or present infidelities, economic, work problems, etc.

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4. Helps to better manage time together

A psychologist specialized in couples will provide us with tools to better manage time together, with which we can reach agreements and that we can both share quality time together.

Some of the biggest conflicts in the couple are caused by poor joint time management or an inability to spend time alone, often leading to discomfort, arguments, helplessness, or resentments.

5. Power self-knowledge

To save a relationship and recover the flame of the early days, it is important to promote the self knowledge and the recognition of the personality and tastes of each member of the couple with each other.

With the passage of time and the monotony of a relationship, it is possible that things are forgotten or overlooked. that were previously given importance, such as the tastes of the other person, their needs, desires, aspirations or dreams.

Work on self-knowledge and self-awareness in both members of the couple it will ensure that the relationship returns to what it was during the infatuation stage.

6. Promotes healthy communication dynamics

In addition to promoting communication, the work of the couples psychologist also consists of creating healthy dynamics of active communication and resolving toxic or little relationship modalities adaptive.

In short, it is about improving or leaving behind everything that interferes with a healthy relationship of couple and incorporate strategies that allow us to create an active, positive and quality.

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7. Helps overcome blockages

Both the blockages and the repressed problems, emotions and feelings must be addressed and channeled during couples therapy, since everything that is ignored or repressed ends up affecting the mental health of the people.

In order to save the future of the relationship in courtships or marriages in which the flame has gone out, It is important that both the issues that block the couple and those blocking thoughts are resolved that prevent each member of the group from advancing individually.

8. Offers new ideas to overcome the routine

The routine of the passage of time and the establishment of monotony are some of the main causes of extinction in the flame of the relationship and even future breakups.

So that this does not happen, it is important to encourage creativity and base the relationship on surprises, details, unforeseen trips, improvisation and all kinds of strategies that prevent the couple from settling into a routine.

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9. Identifies possible problems external to the couple

Some problems or obstacles that the couple is going through may be external to it, such as some alteration or imbalance in health mental illness of one of the members, problems with the children, family problems in one of the two parties, states of fatigue or exhaustion from work, etc.

The work of a psychologist or psychotherapist consists of analyzing the situation of the couple, studying in depth their internal dynamics and detect if there are any of these problems unrelated to it to communicate it and put solution.

10. It allows to treat possible psychological disorders

As in any process of psychological therapy, psychologists specialized in couples therapy also have the obligation to identify and treat any possible alteration or imbalance in the mental health of each of the members of the couple.

Both cases of anxiety, depression, stress, phobias, obsessions or self esteem problems they can affect the dynamics of intimacy in couple relationships, and require individualized psychological treatment.

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