Why do men love bitches?

Much is said about if women like bad men and if men like bad women, and there are some relationships that, despite not working, start hooking (and usually end badly).

But first of all… what is a bad man In general, this term is used towards people who are selfish, who transgress social norms in the search for personal benefits or who simply lead us to live a toxic relationship, of those in which we perceive that we give more than what we receive.

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In this article we will talk about this topic taking into account what scientific research suggests.

Badass women: why are they more attractive?

What does science think about it? Some scientific studies have focused on this line of research, and in many cases it seems that men like selfish women with a tendency to manipulation. According to a team of psychologists at the University of Queensland, Australia, the male subjects in their study preferred women

girls prone to breaking social rules both in their way of setting goals and dealing with others.

This study was published in the journal Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin. In addition, it seems that in the case of women, exactly the same thing happens, as you can read in this article: “Why do women prefer tough guys?”

People with narcissistic and psychopathic traits attract more

Although it may seem strange, people with traits narcissists and psychopathic they tend to generate more desire in others. This is what a study published in the European Journal of Personality, which concludes that these characteristics positively influence speed dating, and these people are seen as more attractive. The scientists found a significant correlation between the psychopathy and narcissism score and the chances of being chosen or chosen, at least for short relationships.

To carry out the study, the researchers had a sample of 90 people (44 men and 46 women) between 18 and 32 years of age. The subjects answered a questionnaire in which their scores were measured in both the Dark Triad traits and the personality traits of the test. big five (extraversion, responsibility, kindness, emotional stability and openness to experience).

After answering the questionnaires, the subjects carried out appointments with each other and, after each of these appointments, they returned to fill out a questionnaire in which they had to score to the other person taking into account different variables: her physical attractiveness, the desire to become friends, the possibility of having occasional intimate relationships with them, etc. Despite the fact that the individuals indicated that they preferred people with narcissistic and psychopathic traits, they did not think the same regarding those with Machiavellian features.

• You can learn more about this study in this article: “Narcissistic people with psychopathic traits are more attractive, according to a study”

Is the same true in long-term relationships?

These studies speak more of attraction and establishing short-term relationships, but when it comes to maintain long-term relationships, these characteristics can hinder the proper functioning of the relationship, and they do not seem to be the most valued to have a life partner.

This is what concludes the research published in the journal Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin which I have already mentioned. The key seems to be in the "sensitivity", which according to the researchers is: "a characteristic that they prefer the members of a long-term couple, which is based on respect for their values ​​and opinions. Sensitivity is the ability to give support when the other needs it and the ability to change in relationships, leaving individual interest aside.

This definition is intended to understand what are people looking forin your long-term relationships, and seems essential for long-term relationships of both friendship and love. As Gurit Birnbaum, one of the authors of the study, explains, "this characteristic is not important for a first meeting or for short-term relationships”, which agrees with the explanations previous; but in the long term, relationships do need “sensitivity”, because, as the researcher affirms, for men, sensitive women “result more feminine and attractive.”

It seems, however, that in the case of the women participating in the study, sensitive men are not attractive at all, quite the contrary, because they think these are dull.

Conclusion: is rebellion seductive?

First of all, it is necessary to mention that the label "bad" does not necessarily refer to evil. Bad girls are often talked about when they are rather independent, don't make an effort to be nice, don't mind spending time alone, etc. They tend to be "off-road" women, who enjoy day to day and do not want complications.

Most men can find them stimulating for short relationships, as some research has shown. However, scientific studies also conclude that they are not preferred for long-term relationships.