36 signs to detect if you are in a toxic courtship

Relationships can be complicated and going through bad times, but sometimes crises are too frequent and the couple's discomfort is too long-lasting.

These are relationships in which the personality of the members, the lack of trust between them, the excess of control or the jealousy turn the couple into a toxic courtship.

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Signs to know if you are in a toxic courtship

It is common that many times people who are in a relationship with these characteristics are not aware of it, due to habit and inertia, or that they are not able to put it end. Therefore, in this article I have prepared a list of signs that will allow you to detect if you are in a toxic courtship.

Now, it should be noted that all at some point in our life we ​​can go through a bad stage, and the same happens in couple relationships. So even if some of these behaviors are manifested at some point in time, it does not necessarily mean that it is a toxic courtship. In addition, in many cases, couple relationships can regain stability thanks to couples therapy.

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Approval of love and lack of trust

Toxic courtships are often characterized by a lack of trust by one of the two members of the couple, which makes it difficult for the relationship to stabilize. Low self-esteem or excessive emotional dependence also make the relationship unhealthy. Some signs can be:

1. You do not feel able to trust your partner when it comes to revealing something sensitive or to talk about your emotions.

2. You or your partner are looking for constant approval of love, because you are not comfortable with your life.

3. There is a great emotional dependence or emotional codependency for your part and / or his

4. You never seek emotional support from your partner because you don't feel understood or understood.

5. Your partner does not take into account your emotions and your relationship lacks moments of intimacy or emotional connection.

6. He can treat you with excess paternalism, hindering the healthy development of the relationship.

Control attitudes

It is common that relationships in which there is excess control are toxic, because communication does not flow and one prohibits the person from being free and having their own way of thinking. Control attitudes include:

7. It keeps track of your accounts and your financial expenses, and asks you constant explanations about any expenses.

8. Since he constantly controls you and is aggressive or aggressive, you avoid telling him about your problems because of his way of reacting.

9. Decisions that affect both are made by him or her. Doesn't take your opinion into account.

10. Control your social networks and your phone conversations.

11. You try not to tell your problems to someone outside the relationship (for example, your family) in case your partner finds out.

Constant conflicts

Poor communication and toxic behaviors constantly create conflict. The relationship environment is not tolerant and does not promote reconciliation. Some examples are:

12. The lack of communication causes constant conflicts between the two.

13. You feel drained or exhausted when you should be happy to have the partner you have. This affects you in the different spheres of your life: work, your relationships with others, etc.

14. You live a hostile environment. You know you shouldn't be in that environment but you always end up coming back.

Lattice attitudes

Control over the partner and insecurity leads to attitudes and lattice behavior, which makes the couple unhappy. Both members suffer, and these behaviors can include:

15. Fly into a rage when you spend time with friends and family.

16. He frequently asks about your hours and questions your version of events.

17. When you date someone of the opposite sex, your partner gets angry.

Disrespect

A relationship cannot be healthy when there is a lack of respect. Trust and respect are basic pillars of any healthy relationship. In toxic couples these behaviors can appear:

18. He insults you regularly.

19. He does not respect your opinion and underestimate your words, in public or in private.

20. They pay no attention to your accomplishments, and do their best to downplay your merits.

21. The lack of respect is such that even in front of others you try not to give your opinion since you are afraid of what they may say to you.

22. Is constantly criticizing the way you dress and the way you behave.

23. He never forgets the mistakes you have made in the past, so he brings them up again and again as soon as he can.

24. Not only does he humiliate you in private, but also in public.

25. Your partner is not interested in things going well for you.

26. Your partner is more pending to receive than to give. It is an asymmetric relationship.

Toxic attitudes in the sexual sphere

Sex is related to the well-being of couples, and there are many studies that corroborate this hypothesis. However, it is not a question of quantity of sex, but of the quality of intimate relationships. These behaviors may appear in toxic relationships:

27. Your partner doesn't make you feel good about your body and your intimacy, and he does it on purpose.

28. You frequently have sex without feeling like it, just to please and avoid their anger.

29. It causes you to perform sexual behaviors that you don't really want simply because it uses blackmail to achieve it.

30. He compares you frequently to his exes to make you feel bad.

Blackmail and manipulation behaviors

Emotional blackmail is characteristic of toxic dating, and is a very harmful but silent form of abuse in the couple. In the article "Emotional blackmail: a powerful form of manipulation in the couple”Deepens on this topic. This psychological manipulation can manifest itself in the following ways:

31. When he acts to do you a favor, he seeks immediate compensation.

32. If you don't do what he wants, he gets angry easily and blames you in your face.

33. You feel belittled or belittled and continually tells you that you are nothing without him or her.

34. He never gives in in arguments. Either he or she is right or the fight gets out of hand. .

36. Blames you for his failureseven those outside the relationship, for example, at work,