How to know when someone does not love you, in 30 items

Hard, yes. But necessary.

The sooner we realize which people around us do not like us, the sooner we can take action on the matter and decide what line of action we are going to carry out. It is difficult to love someone who does not love us, and on many occasions continuing with this type of relationship leads to a loss of self esteem that makes us start loving ourselves less and less. It is good to have the right tools to know how to identify these people.

Does she love me or does she not love me?

Here are some key points to be able to realize it. They are obviously at an orientation level, since not all people act the same and sometimes some of these behaviors may be due to other factors.

But if reading these items we feel identified with the majority, what is real is that we are not in an egalitarian or healthy relationship, and knowing it is the first step.

30 things you can notice when that person doesn't love you

1. You feel bad for asking him to spend some time with you. You feel like you're begging him.

2. Does not support you in your decisions. Rather, they don't even seem to care: their attitude is one of indifference.

3. Doesn't value your opinion. You feel like their opinion is the only valid one. He never asks you for your opinion.

4. It is not usually there when you need it. In his agenda there is only room for you when he or she wants it, without counting on your needs.

5. Doesn't usually have details with you. A "I saw this and I remembered you", a good night message, something.

6. Don't pay attention to what you say. You feel that he is not listening to you or that he is not interested in what you are telling him even though it is important to you.

7. You feel like it's above you. You have given him so much power that you don't feel up to him.

8. He does not want the best for you if he loses something with it. They put their needs before yours most of the time.

9. Doesn't make you feel good about their comments. They do not usually have positive and pleasant messages towards you.

10. You feel that you are not yourself when you are with that person. You try to please him as much as you can, even if you do things with which you do not agree.

11. You feel that he does not enjoy when he is by your side. These kinds of things are noticeable, even if we want to close our eyes.

12. It does not usually leave that person to contact you. When she does it you rejoice and you cling to it. Stand up and think. How many times have you done it? Who really loves you will do everything possible to know about you. If you are almost always the one who takes that step, your interest is not at the same point.

13. His words do not match his actions. He can promise you the stars, but then act the opposite. Important: a person speaks through his actions.

14. He does not count on you in the important decisions. It gives the feeling that she "goes on her own."

15. When you disagree on something or there is an argument, does not show interest in solving it and it is always you who ends up giving in even if you think you are right for fear of losing him.

16. It seems that he never has time for you and that everything else is more urgent.

17. It doesn't make you feel special. You doubt everything, you feel small and insecure.

18. He is not interested in how your day has gone. These types of details are important when assessing the other person's concern for our life.

19. Does not remember important things you have said about yourself. Maybe they didn't care at the time you told them, which shows a lack of interest.

20. He does not worry about whether or not you feel comfortable next to him.

21. You feel less affection for the part of her than you think I could give you. The displays of affection are important and we must pay attention to how we feel in this regard.

22. When you are with him or her, it does not make you love yourself more, but rather the opposite. This is very dangerous. When we decide to share our lives with someone, it is healthy to feel stronger. And on many occasions, even if we don't want to see it, if the person next to us doesn't like us, we begin to value ourselves less.

23. Doesn't tell you anything too personal. Your conversations become banal and when you want to go deeper, divert the subject.

24. You are more bad than good part of the time. If we decide to have a relationship, it is to enrich our existence. When it impoverishes it, you have to stop and think what is happening.

25. It does not respect when you need your space. If you want something, it does not matter if you are busy or it is not a good time.

26. When you ask him it is not clear. Either they love you or they don't love you. There are no middle terms here.

27. You live in the hope that things will change. As much as it hurts, enough. We cannot be with someone hoping that in the future it will be different. Because it probably isn't, and we're wasting time in the present.

28. Much of your environment tells you. Sometimes we cannot see things objectively. If the people who really love us let us know that the person next to us does not love us or at least not in the way we need, perhaps they are right.

29. One day yes, one day no. He makes plans that he does not fulfillHe calls you when he is interested, but then if something comes up, he will sell you at the first exchange rate. We all have priorities, make sure you do not have in the first place of yours who has you in the last positions.

30. You feel that he does not love you. This is where we make up a thousand arguments to justify their behavior. If you don't feel loved in a relationship, it may be because they don't love you. And if they love you, it might not be the way you need it.