September Divorces Can Be Prevented With Couples Counseling

You do not have to wait for crises to go to a professional. If we notice that our relationship is deteriorating little by little, perhaps, these summer months have arrived We should consider whether we can, want or should dedicate our rest days to doing a therapy of partner.

It's known that coexistence can cause wear, especially if you arrive at the vacation destination with accumulated stress by work and with certain internal tensions of the relationship. Everything can be increased by the presence of young children, who require care, dedication and who need the days we spend with them to be at the best of our capacity. They are days to be with the family and that expectation of a happy and well-connected environment also weighs on us.

With these handicaps, who else and who least can choke on the summer. That divorces increase in September is true, but this does not happen by chance but because the members of the couple have been estranged for a time, one or both of the parties do not are satisfied with the situation of the couple and those days can be the stimulus to give the He passed. Therefore, before leaving for the beach, the mountains or embarking on a long tourist trip to the foreigner it is advisable to sit down and to address the stressors that may arise during the days when family.

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Prevent divorces in September with couples therapy

Coexistence and emotional well-being largely depend on how one decides to face the obstacles that arise. It is not that traveling or not traveling will change the situation or eliminate the conflicts that exist. Going on vacation when in conflict has its risks, but if the couple is capable of raise how the trip will be faced, negotiating and setting limits, they can get to enjoy the summer vacation. However, it is not the solution to the present difficulties.

This solution involves attending couples therapy sessions, a process of reinforcing the love bond. on which you can also count on in the summer season, if you choose to suspend travel. The free time we have during this season is a very good opportunity to enlist the help of a neutral professional and solve the bad situation we are experiencing.

Why is going to a couples therapy professional during the summer a good option? Keep in mind that In the event that the holidays are short, we are often not able to disconnect and enjoy, because it took us about 4 days to adapt to these new habits separate from the routine.

In those first days visiting places of tourist interest or sunbathing on the beach, the Prior stress can become a real obstacle when trying to truly immerse yourself in the holidays; We are concerned about not being aware of work, not checking email or not receiving calls. We maintain a state of alert that prevents us from focusing our attention on the present moment and on our partner. And this can generate a lot of frustration and discussions, if there were already previous conflicts.

Another reason why it is advisable to go to couples therapy during the holidays, perhaps the most important, is the fact that in summer we have more free time to go to therapy; time we can invest in work with the psychological tools that are capable of advancing our love relationship.

These tools contribute to:

• Create spaces for communication and empathic connection that allow both members of the couple to express themselves freely and reach agreements that benefit everyone.
• Strengthen the bond that holds the couple together emotionally, in communication and in coexistence.
• Maintain a good management of schedules in which there are times for the couple, for friends, for hobbies, etc.
• Knowing how to express emotions and make them clearly understand the person who is with us.
• Know how to manage all kinds of common conflicts in the day-to-day of the couple, and make the discussions based on the constructive.

It is very important that both of you are convinced of the importance of going to a neutral therapist, since, otherwise, the company will be unsuccessful.

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What role does the professional play in the process?

The role of the professional is one of non-interference, of neutrality. Usually, psychologists take the most effective steps for both members of the relationship to learn the following skills:

• Communication skills and assertiveness techniques.
• Willingness to plan stimulating and interesting activities for both of you.
• Communication skills and reaching agreements to distribute household chores.
• Being able to see the positive aspects and potential of the other.

To improve coexistence on vacation ...

If you finally decide to go on vacation, take note of these tips, which will help you eliminate tensions and improve coexistence:

• Learn to make time for pleasant activities to do as a couple, and not necessarily only on weekends.
• Respect the fact that each member of the couple needs time to be alone or dedicated to their particular hobbies.
• Get used to expressing positive evaluations about the other, and not only focused on the image but also on their actions and their achievements.
• Get involved in active listening, showing interest and involvement in what the other has to say to us.
• In the discussions and conflicts that sometimes arise with your loved one, avoid becoming defensive and interested in the other's perspective to reach solutions and agreements.

The opposite of what is expected can always happen, but in this case, for the better. We can fall in love with our partner again, breaking the routine and regaining passion. In summer, sexual desire increases and certain exotic environments, together with the novelty of change, can help us regain the illusion.