The 8 symptoms of falling in love that we have all experienced

Love is something that changes our lives, but that does not mean that we have a clear control over this feeling: it influences us, but we cannot influence it. When it comes, it comes. Of course, he always lets us know through what we might call symptoms of love.

And it is that although we do not know the logic that makes love appear, we can be aware, if we pay attention to those early signs that our body sends us when we begin to feel something for someone. Knowing how to detect them helps us to be forewarned.

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The main symptoms of falling in love

These are the typical signs that appear when love is born towards another person. These speak to us about both physical and psychological processes, as we will see.

1. Pulse quickens

The typical sign of attraction or, often, infatuation. The more value we give to a person, the faster the heart beats and, consequently, if there is falling in love involved, the rhythm rises a lot. For a reason the heart (or a very simplified and iconic version of it) is the symbol of love.

What is this about? When we see the loved one, our body is activated because it goes into an alert state to try to take voluntary control of all movements and gestures. The goal is, of course, to seduce the other person, or at least make them not panic.

Although it is in a half unconscious way, we know that a small detail in what we do can make a difference and decide whether we will spend many years of our lives with that person or not.

2. Euphoria appears

This is also one of the typical infatuation symptoms, and one of the most pleasant and stimulating. The idea that this loved one exists makes us feel better in many ways, and all of them come to us at the same time. For example, we feel less alone because it gives us the feeling that someone understands us, and at the same time we imagine a life full of shared projects that it would not make sense to undertake alone.

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3. The pupils dilate

Although we hardly notice it, when someone attracts us a lot, the pupils of our eyes dilate. This is so to capture the maximum possible details of what happens when that person we like is around. The idea is to react at the moment to adapt to any situation.

4. We started to fantasize about the future together

Being in love can be overwhelming, because sometimes it leads us to a state of tension: we do not know if the possible relationship with that person will have a future or not, or if it will begin. To calm this state of slight anxiety and uncertainty, we resort to a habit that is another of the symptoms of falling in love: imagine future situations in which that couple already exists and it is consolidated. It is a kind of alternative reality in which we can take refuge so that we are not always worrying about it.

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5. Start to adopt their way of speaking

Many times, when you have already started talking with that person and you have learned some of their habits, we tend to adopt aspects of their speech and incorporate them into the our. For example, words made up by her, expressions and even recurring jokes.

This is not so simply to have a strategy that allows us to like you better, since these Speech changes can also appear when that person is not there (although less measure). What happens is simply that we modify our actions so much because of the implication we have with the relationship, that without realizing it we started to imitate the other and, in part, we think like that person.

6. Loss of appetite

The relationship between appetite and falling in love is curious.

On the one hand, many people feel that when the loved one is near, hunger does not exist; they do not feel the need to eat.

On the other hand, the anxiety of falling in love, if poorly managed, can lead to binge eating. But the latter only occurs in cases in which falling in love collides with a feeling of inferiority and self-esteem problems that hinder the relationship. What's more, it is not a real appetite, but emotional hunger, which leads to eating to compensate for psychological aspects.

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7. Recurring thoughts about that person

When we fall in love, we start to see references to the loved one everywhere: in smells, in sounds, and even the face of some people reminds us of yours (although it does not look like nothing).

What happens is that our memory system learns that the concept of that person is central and very important to us, and start to make it connect with all kinds of ideas and sensations. At the same time, each of these experiences makes us think about it more often, which adds relevance to the memory of her, creating a vicious circle.

8. We want to know more about her

When we fall in love, we use the information we know about that person to imagine more about her in an almost obsessive way. It is a kind of detective work that we do through imagination.

For example, if her surname is the name of a town, we inquire about that place, we wonder if that person will have been there sometime, if she has walked the streets and parks that we see in photographs of Internet…