How to know if your partner uses you (in 10 keys)

psychologists and sociologists They have tried to understand human behavior regarding love for decades, a human feeling or motivation that can change a person's life.

Happiness and consummate love are almost synonymous; However, being a couple is not always easy, and conflicts between members can appear at any time.

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Does our partner love us or use us?

But despite the specific disputes that can arise in a relationship and that often have to do with differences in deep values, the way of thinking or the beliefs and opinions that a person wants, sometimes, one may not feel loved by the person in love with her / her and doubt his or her love "Does our partner love us or is it simple interest?", we can ask ourselves.

Although there are no exact rules to determine this, we can observe certain indications that They can lead us to believe that what our partner really feels for us is pure and hard interest. Of course, these signs are not 100% accurate, and can manifest for other reasons.

What are these keys? In the following lines you can find 10 keys that will help you detect if your partner uses you.

1. Does not support you in important decisions or is there when you need it

Our partner is one of the most important people in your life, so they must show you support in difficult moments and important decisions. If, for example, you are in exam time or you are taking a competitive exam, he should be by your side and understand the situation instead of continually demanding things that interest him or her.

If he does not support you in important decisions or is there when you need him, he may really want something that you own. Unfortunately, what you have between you may not be true love.

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2. He doesn't make you feel good with his comments and he doesn't respect you

If your partner is by your side and supports you in authentic love, they should also show you respect and not harm your dignity. Logically, differences can arise in a relationship and conflicts can appear at specific moments when each one defends their position.

Now, when the person is continually discrediting you, insulting you, treating you badly or humiliating you, it is possible that he uses you, because he does not take you into account as a person, nor does he take into account your needs. Someone who hurts their partner continuously, doesn't love them.

3. Doesn't take your opinion into account

Again, respect is basic in any relationship and is manifested in mature love, that love that is rational and that favors the well-being of the couple.

Living with someone is a constant negotiation and, therefore, there must be a balance between the needs of both members. Therefore, a person who loves you will take your opinion into account despite not agreeing with it. When this does not happen and the other person is constantly imposing their criteria, it is possible that it is not love but interest.

4. you are not his priority

When we are in love we want to be with someone in body and mind, and that person becomes our priority. That does not mean that you have to be with that person 24 hours a day, but it does mean that there is an interest in being together..

Now, when interest is the reason why the other person is with you, they will only look for you at specific moments and will make many plans if you do. He will only want to be with you when he wants to get something out of it.

5. It is not congruent with the love that he says he feels

Surely you have ever heard the phrase “words are carried away by the wind”. This phrase, very popular and has a lot of truth.

When a person loves you, it is consistent with what he says and his actions match his words.. People speak through their actions, so if their behavior and what they verbalize is not consistent, the reason why your partner is with you may not be love. In these cases, you can promise a lot but not follow through on your words.

6. Just looking for intimate relationships

One of the most obvious signs that your partner is using you is when they only want to have sex with you., that is, that this is his only interest for which to spend time with you. When you don't make plans together or the only thing he wants is to meet for intimate relationships instead of going out to dinner and being seen in public, you can start to doubt his love.

7. He doesn't do things for you if he doesn't benefit from it.

The truth is that when you want to be with someone, sometimes you do things you don't want just to make your partner feel good. Accompanying him to a concert or taking him to the university because his car broke down (when you were meeting your friends) are some examples.

It is not about continually giving in to their desires without taking yours into account, but your partner, if he loves you, will also make sacrifices for you. Is that why you have decided to be the person who accompanies you for the rest of your life, right?

8. You are always the one who pays

Perhaps you have a lot of economic capital and you doubt the love your partner feels for you, since one of the greatest interests in life is money. Does your partner never pay anything when you go out with him or her? Does he continually ask you to buy him things? He may just want that from you, so watch how he behaves in these situations.

9. Much of your environment tells you

Sometimes you may be so in love with your partner that, despite observing the above signs, you want to fool yourself into not recognizing that your partner is using you.

Now, apart from what you think, Do others (family, friends, etc.) tell you all the time? Do the close people in your life alert you that your partner's behavior may indicate that they are using you? Better that you reflect on the matter and use your most rational side.

10. He does not tell you anything too personal, he is not interested in your life

Is your interpersonal relationship not intimate and is there no trust between you? Does he have a hard time talking about his life with you and is rarely interested in yours? He may not be interested in your achievements or successes or in your goals or concerns in your life. When someone gives themselves to other people, one feels loved. Isn't that the case with your partner? Well, think objectively about the type of relationship you have with your crush.