How to transform obligations into challenges?

Since we are not all the same, human beings face the vicissitudes, both positive and negative, in different ways. as negatives associated with the challenges they have to face on a day-to-day basis, be it at work or in any other ambit. In other words, what does not change is that it is impossible not to be subject to certain obligations and responsibilities, and what does vary is the way in which we manage those experiences.

For example, while some people adopt a pessimistic and self-sabotaging mentality in the face of day-to-day difficulties, others adopt a proactive and directed mentality. towards problem solving, a key difference that, starting from the same resources and level of technical skills, can lead to very different results between two people. different.

Thus, the way in which we perceive tasks or obligations significantly influences the probability of success. succeed, and this is a fundamental principle that psychologists take into account in any psychotherapy process. But… How to transform obligations into challenges?

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The value of the challenge

Perceived obligations can make us work less willingly and create a state of discomfort when feeling that what we do has nothing to do with us or that it does not fulfill us in our life.

On the contrary, by converting those daily obligations in our professional or private life into challenges that motivate us and with which we are 100% committed, we will achieve our goals more efficiently and likely to get it right.

A personal challenge, contrary to an obligation, is lived with greater interest and involvement, it allows us to be constant and move towards the desired objective with greater intensity and desire.

In addition to that, the challenges allow, in general, to be more methodical and conscious when considering the way in which we will achieve the objectives, and invite us to dose our forces and work with more energy and vitality.

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Strategies to transform obligations into challenges

These are the most important tips that you should keep in mind to make obligations become, from your point of view, motivating challenges.

1. Seek motivation from self-knowledge

Motivation is essential to achieve any goal in life and constitutes one of the most important elements in challenges. But to connect with those sources of motivation, we must know each other; know both our values ​​and our interests.

A challenge is a bet with ourselves, a future promise to achieve success in any area of ​​life and in every task we undertake, which is motivating by itself.

Our job is to find various sources of motivation in each challenge we undertake, something that will make our work easier and allow us to complete the challenges with greater success and speed.

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2. Break up the tasks

A good way to motivate ourselves can consist of establishing small short-term objectives during the course of our challenge; In this way we will find motivating milestones every so often and we will always have the feeling that we can feel good about ourselves just by dedicating ourselves to a task for a few minutes or a couple of hours.

3. Avoid procrastination

Procrastination is the tendency to leave for later any work we have to do, a habit that many people put into practice in their daily life and that has very psychological causes determined.

Some of these causes may be low self-esteem, a lack of motivation or simply the fear of failing in any task in which one participates.

Procrastination can cause real problems in the personal and professional life of any individual, since it it causes an accumulation of work not done, which in turn can seriously affect the emotional health of the person.

That is why to beat procrastination we must always keep in mind that a challenge is much more attractive than an obligation and that we must move on, with motivation, diligence, perseverance and tenacity.

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4. Commit to the challenge by talking about it with others

Being committed to the challenge is one of the most crucial elements for its correct development and without a doubt which will help us to be constant and to pursue the achievement of our goal at all times of the process.

A person is committed to the challenge he is facing when he assumes as his own all the problems or mistakes that may arise during work, when you spare no resources and when you give 100% of your effort without negotiating the slightest every step given.

Feeling that what we do contributes positively to ourselves and that it is an alien task for us It will allow us to work with more determination, commitment, motivation and perseverance.

5. Technique for detection and coping with the feared consequence

One of the main techniques that we can apply in our daily life to turn obligations into challenges of which we feel a part is the technique of detecting and coping with the feared consequence.

This technique consists of daring to face any challenge and working to achieve it with the permanent conviction that Every error or problem that we find along the way is a logical consequence of the same challenge that we have faced. engaged.

In other words, it is not worth complaining when things go wrong, but each mistake is an opportunity to learn and to reflect and reconfigure our action plan in search of ultimate success.

Lastly, it is important to note that This technique is based on facing the frustration generated by any treatment or mistake made, and in case the proposed challenge is too ambitious, we can change it towards a more concrete and realistic one.

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