10 Inconvenient Truths About Valentine's Day

Many of us believe that February 14 is happily marked on the mental calendar of most people who have reciprocated love.

Despite this, Valentine's Day also has drawbacks. There are many criticisms that are made to the festivities based on the purchase of gifts. While most of them are based on morality, they are also from the field of study of psychology it is easy to find reasons to relativize the virtues and sensations that awaken in us during Valentine's Day.

10 aspects of Valentine's Day that will cause you discomfort

Let's look at ten reasons why this day is actually a double-edged blade:

1. Valentine's Day is a mark on the calendar that makes you direct attention to a fundamental question: Do I have the partner that I expect? If I don't have it... what have I done wrong to not be able to celebrate this day? And it is that Valentine's Day is unique, making us raise the bar and, in fact, it is also unique by making the bar itself appear out of nowhere to measure.

2. Is it really mandatory to buy this?

Not only because of the high environmental cost of the mass commercialization of roses, but because of the emotional dependency that consumerism can create. And, let's face it, Valentine's Day has its roots in the tradition of giving things as gifts. Without these types of gifts, it becomes just another day. The question is: how much are we willing to spend on these gifts, and what needs do they respond to?

3. Valentine's Day can precipitate a breakup in couples in crisis, according to A study made in 2004. It seems that this day can act as a catalyst for romantic relationships, making them more unstable and accentuating the problems that are dragging on.

4. The gift also makes business card function personal, a psychological phenomenon that could be summed up as: “that's how fantastic I am and that's how great is the gift that I offer you”. You've seen American Psycho? Well that.

5. Valentine's Day has another component of vanity. Giving things to a loved one may seem like an act born from the heart and pure altruism, but it really isn't like that at all. A study suggests that, for men, the main reason that leads them to make a gift is… The duty. And also, with a difference.

6 .The same study mentioned above indicates that 25% of men expect something in exchange for the gift. 89% of those who buy lingerie, in fact, think of themselves. go go

7. Valentine's Day, in conjunction with Father's Day and Mother's Day are ways to compartmentalize the ways of love. A love relationship that does not fit those definitions is less recognized, as if by force it had to be of less importance.

8. Haven't we already said it? Valentine's Day has a “saturday night” effect: Peer pressure makes staying at home doing nothing depressing (and we all know that staying home in low spirits is a direct route to the fridge).

9. if you liked the movie Amélie, attention, because Valentine's Day It is an attack against the philosophy of small details of the life. Crossing the 24 hours of Valentine's Day means crossing a kind of small Las Vegas in which a a bunch of huge, bright signs encourage you to savor love at your own pace, freely and just as want.

10. Last but not least, this is a date that reminds you of your partner's questionable tastes when asking for or offering gifts. The Valentine's card industry is a mine of nonsense.

In short, it can be said that Valentine's Day is, like the rest of the days of the year, a moment in our lives that we have to learn to don't take ourselves too seriously. Both for its shadows (the inability to fully live this day according to our expectations) and for its lights (the fact of believing that, unlike the rest of the days of the year, on Valentine's Day the essence of a love crystallizes pure). Let's get used to not letting social pressures narrate the way we have to live life next to someone special.