Sindepi: a feminine method to attract real men

Relationships are complex, and having a serious relationship with someone not only depends on physical attraction, but is a constant negotiation, in which the Communication skills play a determining role when it comes to maintaining stability and preventing that motivation or feeling called love from losing strength over time. time.

Currently, moreover, interpersonal relationships can become superficial and interested, largely due to the values ​​and culture that is linked to the capitalist system that reigns in many countries. Relationships have been commodified, and the aesthetic component and other interests are often the reason why a couple joins.

Bauman already said it, that in our society “liquid love” predominates, a term that he coined in reference to the fragility of affective ties.

• You can know the ideas of this author in our article: “The 70 best phrases of Zygmunt Bauman”

Love or interest?

That does not mean that there are not people who give themselves body and soul to their partner and that their value system makes them faithful, respectful, selfless, etc. However, there are also cases in which the bond that unites the members of a loving relationship is not deep but superficial.

And despite the disputes, the occasional conflicts and even the great crises, which are normal in any interpersonal relationship, because each person has her beliefs, opinions and needs, there are also couples who are together but do not respect each other, do not support each other in decisions important, they only seek to have intimate relationships, there is no genuine interest in the other... and, ultimately, they do not have a project in common nor will they even have one.

"Sindepi": a way to find out if your partner loves you

The culture of image and aesthetics is very present today, and this also has a great influence on our interpersonal relationships. As some internet portals explain, the term "sindepi" refers to "without waxing", specifically the genital area.

At present, there is a fashion for "hair out", something that especially concerns women (although also many men). In the case of some women, this even affects their sexual self-esteem. In fact, as a man, I can affirm that some women have preferred not to become more intimate with me because they are not shaved. And it's not that I imagined it, she literally told me.

Especially in the case of young people, is physical appearance so important in a relationship? Are we really going to leave someone for not waxing? If the love is liquid and if the other person doesn't matter to us at all, maybe yes, but if the love is deep, that's the least of it.

self esteem issue

Now, taking into account the previous example, this fact worries the person who goes without depilating more than the other individual, and this makes reflect on how image culture affects our lives, and how it makes us feel bad when there is no reason to put So.

These types of first world problems generate discomfort and do not allow us to relate to others in a healthy way. In reality, this way of thinking is dysfunctional, and can be the beginning of many other psychological problems related to image culture.

When we do not accept our body as it is, then we expose ourselves to problems such as example, low self-esteem or body dysmorphic disorder, which you can find out in depth in our article: "Body Dysmorphic Disorder: Causes, Symptoms and Treatment”.

Criticism of "sindepi": the importance of accepting our body

Concern for physical appearance is common today, taking into account the influence of the culture of the image in which we live immersed. But when that worry becomes too much a part of our lives, it can lead us to make self-destructive behaviors, to feel shame, anxiety and avoid situations that generate this anguish and discomfort.

Acceptance, not only of our body but also of our life in general, is key to enjoying greater mental well-being and the emotional balance necessary to be happy.

Accepting ourselves, treating ourselves lovingly, and acknowledging that we are valuable, lovable, and respectable despite not being perfect may seem easy in theory; however, in practice it is not so. For this reason, in our article “Self-acceptance: 5 psychological tips to achieve itWe give you some recommendations so that you can achieve it.

How to know if your partner loves you?

Leaving aside the previous concept, there are a series of signs that can indicate if our partner loves us or is with us out of interest. But what are these signs?

Your partner loves you if...

• It is congruent with the love that he says he feels and shows it to you.
• Intimate relationships are not the only reason he is with you.
• It does not harm your dignity.
• It takes your opinion into account.
• You are his priority and you have a joint vision of the path you want to follow as a couple.
• He feels happy about your achievements and your success.
• He does things for you even if he doesn't like them (as long as you do them for him too).
• He trusts you and respects you.

You can go deeper into these points in our article: “How do I know if my partner loves me? 10 keys to discover it”